eltopo420 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 hey, i met the love of my life at a strip club on my birthday, we dated for two months, then she quit stripping and moved in with me. We have been together for seven more months (strip free) then two days ago we parted ways and (with no where else to go, I kicked her out cause she did not want to be with me anymore) she went back to stripping., after her shift , she came back and we are now working things out, ( i love her so much) but now i cant get the images of her full nude lap dances that night, she promised not to go back, (she was going to work the next night but quit and stayed with me she did not **** or kiss anyone but the grinding and flirting has broken my heart ????
CurvyGurl Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 It's not cheating if you weren't together. She Strips for a living. Goin to have to get used to that, or break it off for good.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Nope, you were broken up. It ain't cheating. If you want to be with her, get over it.
InLimbo2 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Not only were you 'officially broken up' at the time....which can be a technicality and people hurt when something happens so fast ever.... She'd quit her job when she moved in with you - you clearly stated that you kicked her out on the spot and that she had nowhere else to go. How did you think she was going to make enough quick money to get on her feet? What she did is SURVIVAL - no home, no food, no money - you toss her out without warning - you can't bash her for surviving.
Author eltopo420 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Posted June 19, 2005 umm, i understand that, but i only kicked her out because she promised me she would never go back to dancing, and while we were together she went to the strip club to get her job back, she was planing on leaving me , anyway, she thought i did not like her for her, just her body or sex, which is untrue i am going to forgive her because she means the world to me, its still a hard thing to swallow since, even though we were officially broken up, my lap was untouched the night she stripped, she promised not to go back so i have no choice but to believe her she is truly my everything. thaxs for all the replies. d
BigB Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Dating a stripper with the condition that she never dance again is a lost cause IMO.
Author eltopo420 Posted June 20, 2005 Author Posted June 20, 2005 this is his g/f the one that went back to strappin, well this is what i have to say, im 19 hes 30, he hates the fact that i need a job not striiping but just a regular job, i havent worked for about 6 months b cuz he does not want me to get a job, b cuz of men, he thinks ill leave him for some 1 else if i get a job, which is not the case, i have a 2 yr old child who lives w/ her grand mother cuz i can not tkae care of her , im to poor, i dont think hell ever be there for me, when it comes to haveing a family and taking care of buisness, he 30 he just got a job after not working for like 3 months, his mother takes care of him, and i need to take care of my self, o and this is ****ing funny, ill admit that i have a low self esteem, when i tell him about my problems he could care less, and its funny how he comes on love shake to give others advice, whats a girl to do w/ a 30 yr old man who is not capable of takig care of him self, is kinda of a control freak, never listens to me, he has no merit to say what to do w/ my life.
New_Wife Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Dang Kiddo! If you are really 19, and have no way to take care of your child - I think that should be your main concern - not this relationship. If the relationship works, neat - if not - bummer; but your priorities are not in the right place if you put ANY man before your flesh and blood. Whether you strip, flip burgers, pump gas, give pedicures, cut hair - whatever, save some money to get a place or a roomie and get your kid back with it's mamma where it belongs. Take some classes at beauty school or vocational college and get yourself on track. Being poor is a choice if you are an able-bodied young person. Choose something better.
crazy_grl Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by New_Wife Whether you strip, flip burgers, pump gas, give pedicures, cut hair - whatever, save some money to get a place or a roomie and get your kid back with it's mamma where it belongs. Take some classes at beauty school or vocational college and get yourself on track. Being poor is a choice if you are an able-bodied young person. Choose something better. Exactly. If the guy won't let you get a job because he's afraid you'll meet other people, leave him, get a job, and take care of your daughter. You don't need to be with someone who's 30 and still hasn't realized that you can't be each other's everything. You both need friends to enrich your lives. Otherwise, you'll start to resent each other because your needs aren't being met. No one person can meet every single need of another person. It doesn't matter how much he says he loves you or how much he needs you. A lot of men who beat their wives tell them they love them and genuinely can't see themselves living without them. And the reason they beat them is because they're insecure... just like your guy who is afraid some other man is going to steal you away if you get a job. It's fair of him to tell you he doesn't want you stripping, but it's completely unreasonable for him to demand that you don't work at all, especially if he can't take care of you himself.
Author eltopo420 Posted June 20, 2005 Author Posted June 20, 2005 Ok first off i never said she can't get a job, but all the jobs she wants seem to have dude involved. ( she hates females) 2nd. I believe her age has something to do with the next point but she seem to make bad judgment calls, ( even she'll admit that) she lies to me weekly ( nothing major but hurtful none the less) she has not been cared for, even as a child and often makes the mistake of confusing care for control since she has been with me she don't get into ****ed up situations, I keep our relationship out of trouble. and tp the female who said one person cant be your everything, well your wrong because she is mine. MAybe you need a better lover if u feel the need to have madd people in your life she never had many friends when i met her ( by her choice)... see above--- (hates females0 and my third point is that the father of the kid has no financial responsibilities, she don't get child support, hes a jailbird drug addict who has already attacked me once and keyed my car. i love the babbie more than he does, since he don't come around ever... i love her too much to let her **** her life up, but i know im crazy jealous and thats what i need to work on im scared because we fight so much she;ll move on to the next man.... the end
New_Wife Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 This is starting to sound fishy. Is this a make-believe story? Certainly no one would really insist upon an undereducated teenage mother that is unemployed due to childhood trauma. And to further state that this person should be his everything? At age 30?? Honey, did you ride the short bus to school or what? I don't think this is real. I think we've got a 10-year old playing two parts on Mommy/Daddy's computer.
Marshbear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by BigB Dating a stripper with the condition that she never dance again is a lost cause IMO. Agreed BigB. They always go back. Heck, you met her at one. How long was she stripping before she met you? You don't own her. I think you are to insecure with the relationship and she will leave you if you don't get it together. Strippers are usually bad news ( speaking from experience ). Peace...
Author eltopo420 Posted June 20, 2005 Author Posted June 20, 2005 well i wish it was not true but it is way to be supportive "new wife", and im sure theres nothing new about you Aka old hag anyway just cause she had a s h itty life dont mean she not my everything age dont got s h i t to do with it... you should be banned from the site for yr lack of grace 10 year old , i think a 10 year old gave the advice you did short bus huh how sweet, do you go up to poepel in weelchairs and ask them to race????
Marshbear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by New_Wife This is starting to sound fishy. Is this a make-believe story? Certainly no one would really insist upon an undereducated teenage mother that is unemployed due to childhood trauma. And to further state that this person should be his everything? At age 30?? Honey, did you ride the short bus to school or what? I don't think this is real. I think we've got a 10-year old playing two parts on Mommy/Daddy's computer. I 'm starting to agree with you.
westernxer Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 So tell me, what does this stripper look like? I want to fantasize about getting a lap dance from her. Don't worry, she won't tell you about it, and neither will I. You'll be home watching her kid.
Marshbear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer So tell me, what does this stripper look like? I want to fantasize about getting a lap dance from her. Don't worry, she won't tell you about it, and neither will I. You'll be home watching her kid.
scarlyjones Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by eltopo420 well i wish it was not true but it is way to be supportive "new wife", and im sure theres nothing new about you Aka old hag anyway just cause she had a s h itty life dont mean she not my everything age dont got s h i t to do with it... you should be banned from the site for yr lack of grace 10 year old , i think a 10 year old gave the advice you did short bus huh how sweet, do you go up to poepel in weelchairs and ask them to race???? wow,....maybe the reason you two dont get along is because you two never went past the 4rth grade. I mean COME ON,............"age dont got sh*t to do with it...."? "poepel"? "dont mean she not my everything"? "Babbie"? Hey my friend,...you have bigger problems than this relationship. Why dont you go back to school? Maybe that would UP your self esteem. What in the sam-hell is a Babbie????
New_Wife Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by eltopo420 do you go up to poepel in weelchairs and ask them to race???? Why yes, yes I do. Then for an encore, I like to throw empty beer bottles at stray dogs on fire escapes. Doesn't everyone?
crazy_grl Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by eltopo420 and tp the female who said one person cant be your everything, well your wrong because she is mine. MAybe you need a better lover if u feel the need to have madd people in your life Making one person your everything is unhealthy. Most people realize that by age 30. Both of you sound like you've got a lot of issues you need to work out by yourselves before you get into a relationship with anyone. Otherwise, you're just going to make each other's lives hell.
Author eltopo420 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 hey wester what she looks like realyy should not matter to you since you came out . i mean i heard some wild stories about single men living in LA maybe you should worried more about the STD's you'll get from the call guys you pick up in your white trash mobile on friday nights. punk ass f a g .
westernxer Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by eltopo420 hey wester what she looks like realyy should not matter to you since you came out . i mean i heard some wild stories about single men living in LA maybe you should worried more about the STD's you'll get from the call guys you pick up in your white trash mobile on friday nights. punk ass f a g . LOL. Thanks for the compliment. Won't change your situation one bit...
Author eltopo420 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 y doesnt every 1 acually read the post b 4 u make an attempt at giving adivce
westernxer Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Because you are being defensive, that's why, and you're extremly naive. She's taking you to the cleaners, and you put up with it.
Author eltopo420 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer LOL. Thanks for the compliment. Won't change your situation one bit... neither will the fact that your desperate enough to jerk off over a girl you never met or saw id much rather be in my situation then a h o mo jer k off living with his mom in LA lol now b itch
Author eltopo420 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones wow,....maybe the reason you two dont get along is because you two never went past the 4rth grade. I mean COME ON,............"age dont got sh*t to do with it...."? "poepel"? "dont mean she not my everything"? "Babbie"? Hey my friend,...you have bigger problems than this relationship. Why dont you go back to school? Maybe that would UP your self esteem. What in the sam-hell is a Babbie???? umm i cant find the phrase "babbie" anywhere in my post why dont you go back to "keep your legs closed school " you mail order bride to be and sam-hell ok tex , what are you a cowgirl from a 60's flix maybe this will help your self esteem, everyone can keep talking s hit, but i'll bomb on you simple enough now if know one has any help, not as s hole comments, i'd be quite happy
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