ReadySetGo123 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Hi. I am going on my first date with a guy this Saturday, and we've connected really well so far. We have been learning about each other and discovering tons of things we have in common. He's showing a lot of interest. One of the things we have bonded over is our love of comic books. There is a specific comic he mentioned he hasn't read yet but wants to read, and I was considering getting a copy and bringing it on the first date. Do you think that is too much?
mortensorchid Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I think it would be. Don't do that, but if you have a comic book T shirt, wear it to show your enthusiasm. It's something subtle but just between you two.
normal person Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 It's not so expensive that it'd be too much, but if it were me I'd wait to see if I liked him first, and then get him the thing the second time we went out. Best of luck.
Author ReadySetGo123 Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 I think it would be. Don't do that, but if you have a comic book T shirt, wear it to show your enthusiasm. It's something subtle but just between you two. I would, but I would rather wear something nicer than a graphic tee on the first date.
Author ReadySetGo123 Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 It's not so expensive that it'd be too much, but if it were me I'd wait to see if I liked him first, and then get him the thing the second time we went out. Best of luck. I guess in my mind, I kind of thought of it as when guys have gotten girls flowers on the first date. Except this would be from the girl to the guy, and have a little more meaning than just cliche flowers. But maybe the comic book would be too meaningful for a first date, since it's something not very common to bring?
dumbass2 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I would wait until you see how the first date goes and if it goes well and there is a second one, then you can think about bringing it on the second date. To me, first date is too early for anything personal like a gift. I found that I can get along great with someone on the phone or texting and then we meet and it's just not the same in person for some reason or another and the chemistry in person is what gets it off the ground and moving ahead.
d0nnivain Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 CW says don't do it. But there is something to be said for being unique. How much is the comic book? If around $5 go for it. Even if he's not worth a 2nd date, you will have made his day by giving it to him. A nice gesture should not be abandoned simply because it might make somebody uncomfortable. If you do this, do not give him another gift until there is an occasion, otherwise it looks like you are trying to buy him.
Shanex Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I rarely offer gifts right the first date. I can pay the drinks, the bill at the restaurant, sure. Not a gift. The only exception and it usually is a coincidence is when it's the persons birthday, or at least closely before/after her birthday. Then why not. If no special occasions I wouldn't.
The_Dork_Lard Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Opinion seems to be split between going ahead an giving it to him on the first date, or holding off and giving it to him if and when there's a 2nd date. Here's a suggestion for what it's worth: Take the comic with you on the first date, and try to conceal it. If the date goes well, give it to him at the end, and it will punctuate the whole date with a gracious fullstop/period. He'll love it. 1
Author ReadySetGo123 Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 Opinion seems to be split between going ahead an giving it to him on the first date, or holding off and giving it to him if and when there's a 2nd date. Here's a suggestion for what it's worth: Take the comic with you on the first date, and try to conceal it. If the date goes well, give it to him at the end, and it will punctuate the whole date with a gracious fullstop/period. He'll love it. That's what I was planning on doing, actually. I just still feel kind of torn, because let's say the first date does go well, even if I give him the comic book at the end of the night, it's still during the first date. I definitely wouldn't give it to him at the beginning of the date. Then again, since I would only give him the gift if the date goes super well, wouldn't the night already be ending on a high note by going well? Someone did say you could have great chemistry with someone over the phone, but it could be a total bust in person. I know there's a chance of that, but I have a good feeling about it still. And I guess I want to show how much I've listened to what he's told me, and just do something thoughtful. He's probably never gotten a gift on the first date...I just hope being different, in this case, would be a good thing rather than a bad thing!
hugsandkisses Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I think it's a big NO. Some people aren't thrilled about gifts although they're definitely a nice gesture, but also it puts too much pressure on him and might even make you look like you're trying too hard. I know for a fact that some people don't like receiving gifts because they don't want to feel obligated to get you a gift in return or feel like they owe you something. Save the gift for when you know him better.
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