livinglife2019 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 To cut a long story short. We met a few times, Chatted after for a while and he kept canceling our dates. I decided to give him one more chance and ask if he wanted to meet and no surprise he was busy! If I'm honest I did get a little angry and send a pissed off text. The conversation went as follows. Me: Maybe we should just forget about meeting. Him: Why? Me: This is the 4th time you have cancelled because of other plans. I get it your busy, I am too. But the fact you haven't rescheduled at all makes me think that your not up for meeting. Only for the fact that I think you are pretty cool and handsome I would have stopped talking to you after the second time you cancelled. " I know it comes across as sad and needy but I don't play games and try to be as honest as possible" So anyway he never replied after that. I know he seen it but hasn't replied. I'm not annoyed or even angry that he hasn't replied because if i'm honest after he cancelled for the 4th time, it clicked that I deserve better. I should mention he did want to meet on Monday for a booty call but I didn't take him up on his offer. We are friends on Fb, Snapchat and whatsapp. Should I remove him from them all now or wait until he reply's? I have got to a stage where I know I deserve better, But he is like my drug, When I'm with him he makes me feel like a million dollars. Any advice or tips Would be really appreciated.
Shanex Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Cancelling several times dates and flakiness shows a clear lack of interest. Given him one more week to set up a date. If he flakes again, cut him loose. 1
dumbass2 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Since you want more than friends, you should probably delete/unfriend him everywhere on social media. You cannot just be friends. You don't want to be keeping tabs on him and see pictures because it will make you more upset. His actions clearly tell you that you are not a priority. He is telling you his interest is very little. Don't be available for him now. Go silent on him and he'll get the message. Also, you have told him exactly how you feel and have already given him more than enough chances and he chooses to not reply to you because he doesn't care how you feel....it appears by his actions or lack there of. 1
smackie9 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Stop wasting your time. Seriously, this guy has nothing but flaked on you, and now he asks for a booty call....he's not that into you but would have np throwing a hump into ya. Your obsessiveness is clouding your judgment and it's making you passive/aggressive...hun you are looking cray cray. Delete him off social media, go no contact.
Zahara Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Me: Maybe we should just forget about meeting. Him: Why? Me: This is the 4th time you have cancelled because of other plans. I get it your busy, I am too. But the fact you haven't rescheduled at all makes me think that your not up for meeting. Only for the fact that I think you are pretty cool and handsome I would have stopped talking to you after the second time you cancelled. " I know it comes across as sad and needy but I don't play games and try to be as honest as possible" OP, the next time someone starts canceling on you, take their behavior as a CLEAR indication of disinterest. There is no need to push, force or provoke a reaction. He canceled 4 times and you keep chasing? I cringed when I read the bold text. What a great ego boost for him -- and what a sad indication of what you'll put up with just because he's handsome/cool. Even worse, you relayed that to him. Then you go on to mention how it may seem sad and needy that you desire his time and only after a few dates with him. Why so bent out of shape over this guy only after a few meetups? Some things are better left unsaid because that kind of desperation only pushes guys like him further away. You probably feel like a million bucks because he looks good on your arm. Doesn't seem like there's anything more of substance there -- so best you remove him from your social media and try to get over this instead of still waiting for a reply. Four times should be enough of an indication that he isn't interested in anything more other than seeing you for sex. Even if he replies, move on from this. After this, he'll just use you for sex and company. 1
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