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Thank you so much you guys honestly made me feel better thank you so much :')

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bummer Established Member

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You should inform your old buddy not to tell you those things. He's a jerk.

 

She definitely was out of it weeks or months ago and maybe she lacked the confidence to say what she felt directly so you have to take all her actions as fact. Your thoughts of her lingering thoughts for you are pure fantasy.

 

Full NC. Be mindful her actions are doing all the talking you need to hear and you should work on yourself. Good luck, I'm there with ya buddy struggling back to find my own self-worth.

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If she can jump in with someone after only a few days, then she isn't worth worrying about.

 

I know it's easy for me to say, but it's the truth.

 

Go get someone with a bit more class.

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Satu Established Member

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Full NC.

 

Tell your friends that you don't want to know anything about what she's saying and doing.

 

 

Take care.

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So me and my ex of 2 years broke up 2 weeks ago because she cheated on me I went no contact and deleted her number and emails etc etc. Recently I've been talking to a girl that has been cheated on we're getting close by the day. The girl I'm talking to asked me to send a picture of me and my ex gf so I went on to Facebook messenger app and went onto me and my ex's conversation and got a picture real quick I accidentally forgot to clock out of the conversation and I sent the picture to my ex! She's probably thinking now I miss her and I'm trying to get her back she's probably even happy... What do I do for her to think that I'm not even a tad interested in her because I am not anymore...

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You do nothing. You just pretend it never happened. Anything you try to do to fix it will make things worse.

 

Although you didn't ask, the fact that the new girl wants a picture of you & your EX is very odd. I would stay clear of her. there is no reason for her to want this. It's even more bizarre that you sent it to her. I think you are getting played. It wouldn't surprise me if this new girl is your EX or one of her friends.

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It doesn't matter. Seriously.

 

If your ex cheated on you, she won't care. Just delete your ex and be done with it.

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You do nothing. You just pretend it never happened. Anything you try to do to fix it will make things worse.

 

Although you didn't ask, the fact that the new girl wants a picture of you & your EX is very odd. I would stay clear of her. there is no reason for her to want this. It's even more bizarre that you sent it to her. I think you are getting played. It wouldn't surprise me if this new girl is your EX or one of her friends.

 

And all of this.

 

This is a very odd request. You need to be more careful, OP.

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Satu Established Member

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It doesn't matter what your ex thinks or does.

 

She's your ex.

 

It does matter you think and do, though.

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So me and my ex of 2 years broke up 2 weeks ago because she cheated on me I went no contact and deleted her number and emails etc etc. Recently I've been talking to a girl that has been cheated on we're getting close by the day. The girl I'm talking to asked me to send a picture of me and my ex gf so I went on to Facebook messenger app and went onto me and my ex's conversation and got a picture real quick I accidentally forgot to clock out of the conversation and I sent the picture to my ex! She's probably thinking now I miss her and I'm trying to get her back she's probably even happy... What do I do for her to think that I'm not even a tad interested in her because I am not anymore...

 

The amount of time you dated changes in every single one of your posts...

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Me and my ex girlfriend of 3 years started dating when we were 18 I broke up with her 2 weeks ago because she was flirting with multiple guys behind my back. (and is that a fair reason to break up with someone?)

 

Now an old mate of mine loved my girlfriend whilst we were dating I cut him off because he was causing trouble, we recently got in touch again I told him about the break up and he went and called her straight away he said they spoke for 10 minutes and she was with a guy already?

 

I didn't initiate contact with her for 2 weeks and 2 night ago on Facebook I messaged her saying what's happening with him (my old mate) she replied:he keeps calling me every name under the sun, then apologizes,says im missing out on a ''sexy guy'' (me) saying i should get back with you cause you're a good guy and apparently you guys are friends again listen im over the phone calls im changing my number once again.

 

I didn't reply back to her message and just left it at that.

 

 

Please I want to get over this girl I deleted our pictures, emails, etc etc. at times I don't even think about her but when I'm lonely in bed or doing something boring she's sparking in my mind I listen to sad songs recently started smoking cigarettes and drinking On the weekends I really don't know what to do she's out clubbing having fun hooking up with guys and I'm just here doing nothing.

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Do you want to be a in a relationship with someone who is flirting with multiple guys behind your back? Answer that question and you'll have the answer to whether breaking up with her over that was the right thing to do.

 

She's moved on so fast because it is female nature to do so. She most probably had checked out of the relationship a while ago. The flirting was just a symptom of her discontent with the relationship, it was going to end regardless, you just drove the nail into the coffin. There's really nothing else to it. You have to go No Contact and work through the pain, distract yourself and keep yourself busy.

 

She will be hooking up with other men, has branch swung to another guy/s almost immediately, internalize this and realize you would never be able to look at her the same ever again even if she were to come grovelling back.

 

Go out and hook up with other girls, you'll feel better in a couple of months guaranteed.

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Delete her off FB & all social media. The temptation is too great.

 

 

Tell your old buddy that you don't want updates & to stop talking to her about you.

 

 

Now recognize that it's only been 2 weeks, 2 painful weeks but 2 weeks nonetheless. It will hurt for a while. I have heard it takes 1/2 the length of the relationship to fully get over somebody. That doesn't mean you have to be dateless but don't expect miracles.

 

 

Meanwhile the fact that you have purged the pictures is good. Do other productive things for yourself. Rearrange the your living space so it's not a constant visual reminder. Get active; join a gym, take up a new hobby, work overtime. Keep yourself busy.

 

 

Personally I'd let myself be sad for a while but I'd come up with a kick-ass fun plan for Memorial Day to kick off a fun filled lighthearted, no strings attached, footloose & fancy free summer. Then do just that -- have a blast.

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Despite how good to you she may have been, you two are broken up for the right reasons. You could never have been happy in the relationship you had with her, nor could the relationship have changed. NC is your best option for now.

 

As for the substance abuse; It's such an easy way out. Let the pain hit you and, with your new-found free time, find ways to better yourself. Hook up with some new women, start cooking healthy, go to the gym, dress well, etc.

 

If all else fails, remember this; you WILL love someone again, and they WILL love you back.

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I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years 3 weeks ago because she's was flirting with other men. I went NC and still I'm still trying to move on I deleted all our photos her number anything that basically reminds me of her.

 

She called me this morning whilst I was going for a walk around the river I knew it was her because I know her number on the top of my mind I picked up she said hey I said hi who is this then she told me it was her I said hey what's up she's like I called you by accident and I said okay cool she asked what I'm doing I said walking around the river and I didn't ask her what she was doing. Then she told me if I'm okay? I said yes I am and I said enjoy the rest of your day bye and she said bye also.

 

What is she trying to do?

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I highly doubt she called you by mistake...

 

It's hard to say to be honest, she might miss you or she might now realize what she's lost, and that the grass isn't greener. If she was flirting a lot etc and you got rid of her because of that, she may not have ended up with someone else and has now realized she is alone etc.

 

Since there isn't really to much to go off from what you said, if you were already in NC and deleted everything I would stay as you are, don't contact her etc, and don't answer the next time she calls since you know her number.

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When exes contact me, it's because they are lonely and are looking for a quick and easy person to comfort them. They may have had a break up or be going through a hard time, and they just need a shoulder to cry on. It's unfortunate, but it's usually only for selfish reasons. There may be that small exception that they want to rekindle and have good intentions, but I wouldn't bank on it. Forget about it and keep going forward. They did it to themselves!

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LD1990 Established Member

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Probably trying to boost her ego by seeing if you still want her. Or she wanted some emotional support. Either way, she's trying to use you. Probably best to let her go to voicemail - she can tell you exactly what she's calling for there, and you avoid these awkward conversations.

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Probably wanted to see if she still has your interest.

 

 

Block.

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