I'm lost 🤔

[Lawislife]

Hi Ladies & Gents.

 

This is my first thread on any type of forum hope to get some good advice

and feed back.

 

I was dating a girl close to 4 months at the beginning of our relationship she was so kind and loving she would call me every night and we would talk for hours without getting bored we were crazy in love I would put effort it wasn't just a one side thing.

 

3 months later into our relationship she was acting weird not picking up my calls ignoring me slow replies acting blunt this all happened when she started her new job anyways I confronted her and asked her why she was acting this way she didn't say anything next morning I rang her and she told me she was flirting with this guy from work I called it off straight away I didn't say nothing nasty or hurt her I just said enjoy talking to him now and hung up I didn't contact her for 1week she didn't even call or text me I was shocked 8th day I rang her and she told me she was waiting for my call she didn't call me because she would sound clingy and desperate? Anyways we started talking and she send me nudes on snapchat but I don't respond to them and she's on the phone 24/7 with this guy from work and then after she hangs up on him she calls me what should I do? I feel like I'm her boy toy.

Edited April 19, 2016 by Lawislife
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[Jersey born raised]

What are your age differences? What type of relationship does she think has with you? Does it match your's?

[Lawislife]

What are your age differences? What type of relationship does she think has with you? Does it match your's?

 

Sorry didn't mention our age we are both 20 and I don't know what she thinks now but she's treating me like a side man.

[mightycpa]

Then treat her like a side lady and go get a new main squeeze. What's the problem, exactly? You still think you're in love?

[Lawislife]

Then treat her like a side lady and go get a new main squeeze. What's the problem, exactly? You still think you're in love?

 

I don't think I am I know I am that's the problem

[Lawislife]

I broke up with my girlfriend 1 1/2 week ago we dated for 4 months were both 20 years old and we started talking again yesterday and she was telling me she misses us also the reason why I broke up with her was because she was flirting with other folks and I found out and it was over! she made a confession today, that she had sex twice after our break up and now she's sending me pics of her body and talking dirty to me trying get my attention again she's telling me she's getting jealous because I talk to other women now she told me she wants to catch up and talk what should I? It's only been a week and she already had sex with 2 guys?

 

Need advice please.

[PegNosePete]

You know exactly what kind of person she is. She has shown you plainly and clearly by her actions.

 

If you're OK with that, go ahead and meet up, have sex, or whatever.

 

If you're looking for a trusting relationship with a quality woman then block her and move on.

[PursuitofPeace]

Yeah, not the kind of girl you can be in a trusted relationship with, and just the fact that she wants to get you back with sex/dirty pictures makes it seem like she's not doing it for the right reasons and doesn't think she has anything to offer other than sex/hotness.

[Zahara]

Even if you went back with her, you'd always wonder if she's sending dirty pictures to other men, having sex with other men, flirting with other men -- in 4 months you're already struggling with trust issues. It's done. She recently had sex with these two guys -- I'm sure she's got some pictures circulating with them too.

 

Move on. If you want a relationship, then pursue someone that's more emotionally and mentally grounded. This is not that person.

[LostOnes05]

Lose the girl...keep the pics(jk)

[Lawislife]

Hello amazing people!

 

I wanna keep it short and smooth me and my girlfriend have been dating close to 5 months and we're both 20 years old. I broke up with her last week because I found out she was flirting with other men. She made a confession that straight after our break up she had sex with a guy twice because she thought that would help her get over me? I honestly I think she's just talking a load of Sh** to cover that up.Anyways after a deep thought I called her and told her I'll give her a last chance and that was 2 nights ago from now she said she was so happy that I gave her a chance and she told me she still loves me a lot. She hasn't called me or texted me for 2 nights now should I just cut her off?

[PrettyEmily77]

Yes, you should.

 

1 week is a very short amount of time for all of this drama to have gone down - carry on if you're prepared to accept more of the same.

[PegNosePete]

Wow, she cheats on you, has sex another guy twice within a week of breaking up, and gives you some obviously bogus "explanation".

 

And how do you "punish" her? By instantly forgiving her and giving her another chance.

 

No way Jose. Tell her you changed your mind, then NC her.

[Zahara]

I don't think creating another thread is going to give you different answers. Lose the girl. She's trouble.

[Lawislife]

After I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. I broke up with her because she cheated on me I went no contact with her she called me today i told her to f*** off and called her names. she messaged me saying watch out you messed with the wrong girl I'm not even scared but I don't want trouble what do I do?

Edited May 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[bathtub-row]

Just stop engaging with her in any way, shape or form. And I mean this quite literally. Do not take calls from her, do not respond to texts, etc. I had an ex who was doing some pretty rotten things to me and the police told me that what these people want the most is your attention. They don't care if it's positive or negative attention - they just want YOU to talk to THEM. They want to get a rise out of you, some kind of recognition that you know they're alive. That was really important info because I learned that they need to get no pay-off for their actions.

 

There's not much you can do at this point except see if she does anything. She's probably just talking, but who knows? If something bad happens, report it to the police that you suspect her because she threatened you. If nothing else, they'll probably talk to her. That alone may be enough to put the fear of God in her. If you have any cop buddies, even better.

[DevotedBaker54]

It's difficult to decide whether or not you want to stay with your ex. I would think about what you want out of a romantic relationship. Do you want someone who flirts with other men and then feels guilty about it, or do you want to wait for someone who respects you, is proud of you, and wants to show you off to the world?

I wish you the best in your future relationships and hope you find someone who loves and respects you!

[Lawislife]

Me and my ex girlfriend broke up after 1 year of dating were both 21 because she cheated on me she was flirting with other guys and after we broke up she had sex with another guy twice on the first week of our break up we ended it on bad terms I basically called her a whore and other nasty things because I was hurt we recently spoke and she seems definitive of her decision not to go back with me after me offering her a second chance? She said she had sex with another guy when she was single but it was only the first week of our break up? I've been drinking alcohol lately clubbing trying to get over her but our photos and memories are still on my phone I can't forget about her what's a good suggestion?

[keiji]

Delete everything you have in your cell. It will only bring bad memories. That's the first thing I did when we broke up and it was a great decision, I think. Also, block her and don't get in touch with her under any circumstances. You need to heal and she sounds like a terrible emotional investment.

 

Would you really accept her back after cheating on you? You could never trust her. You may feel desperate now and capable of forgiving everything, but once you had her with you again, all those thoughts would re-emerge, believe me.

[Lawislife]

Yeah I will it's time to move on I guess.. Thank you

[AVeryConfusedGuy]

I'm sorry that this happened to you, truly unfortunate as I couldn't imagine the pain. The best advice I can give you:

 

-Extreme NC, don't contact her for ANY reason. That means replying to any messages or calls that she initiates toward you.

 

-Delete the photos of her off your phone. This will be HARD, but trust me, you'll be thanking yourself later.

 

-If you have love notes, pictures or things that remind you of her that she has made or written to you during your relationship, shred them or toss them. If you don't have the strength for that, stash them away in a box and put them somewhere that you WON'T bother to open and look at. Down the road after you have healed, you'll have the strength to do it with ease.

 

-Completely block her on Facebook and other social media sites if you haven't already. If she has close friends that you aren't close to personally, block them too so photos of her don't surface.

 

-Do NOT resort to drinking, parties or make questionable decisions to numb the pain. Instead, do things that won't give you even more regret or change you as a person in a negative way. Hit the gym/work out, get a different job, get a second job, go on free dating apps just to talk to other girls because it helps.

 

-Give yourself ammo towards her. You feel sad, but I recommend turning that sadness into anger. Think of her kissing and having sex with other men and ENJOYING it over you. Your sadness will turn into anger, jealousy and resentment. It makes you not want to get back with her even if there was a small chance she did come back, which is the point of moving on.

You need to be thinking "F*CK HER!" rather than "god I miss her so much..."

Good luck, friend.

[Lawislife]

Me and my ex of 2 years broke up because she cheated on me, the break up was 2 weeks ago from now I went no contact since then even though I struggled really badly.

 

Recently a old buddy gave me a call and told me check Facebook she was having fun and clubbing? I'm all depressed and missing her and she's clubbing and having fun....

 

And I found out through third party that after our break up 3 days later she had sex with another guy i don't understand how can she not miss me even a bit?

[confuseddddgirl]

she probably does miss you? but maybe not as much. and maybe sleeping with another person is just a way to help the person move on. I'm not saying you should do the same but everyone has a different way of coping. and if she cheated on you then honestly she must've never really cared about you. you may be sad now and miss her but it will get better soon, trust.

[TaraMaiden2]

If she cheated on you, does it not occur to you that she had already emotionally left the relationship?

She doesn't miss you because you're the one with the broken heart, not her.

 

Please follow the NC Guide (see link in my signature) and tell friends you do NOT want any form of update about her, at all.

Move on.

I think she did, a while ago.

[ExpatInItaly]

She moved on before you two broke up, hence her ability to cheat. She'd already left the relationship, sadly.

 

Delete her from social media, and tell your friends to quit giving you updates on her activities, especially her more intimate ones. They're not being very kind to you if they think you need to hear that.

 

I've been where you are, OP. It's very hard. But you will get through it. You will someday see that this girl just didn't deserve you.