Is it true that nice guys always get ignored? [and consolidated nice guy dating]

[Miss Spider]

Yeah I've met some super sexy engineers and they were all nice guys (Not to be confused with niceguys)

[Imajerk17]

Well first of all, I notice that two quite different threads about Nice Guys were merged. The OP in the older original thread actually had a point about being confused. (The OP in the original thread just went on a date with a girl who gushed about what a refreshing change of pace OP was, and then she vanished on OP and went back to bemoaning about how she can't meet a decent guy, and of course, OP wanted to know what the hell just happened.) Ehhh well, I am sure *someone* had a reason why this is. But I digress.

 

Urbanyst, I notice that you post a lot of hypothetical threads about women. You have another thread active about how women seem to like sweets. I am finding threads such as these to be (mostly) a waste of time. You'd do yourself better to look at someone's ACTIONS and see for yourself about what women go for. There is no way this can be described in a single post. Basically though, women go for men who can make them FEEL a certain way, and this has little to do with looks, income, or even how "nice" he is.

[William]

Well first of all, I notice that two quite different threads about Nice Guys were merged

 

Yes, Robert received reports on gender warring and apparently decided to merge the thread into the consolidated thread as part of the cleanup. If you feel Robert has erred, moderation is always available via PM to discuss that.

 

Urbanyst, I notice that you post a lot of hypothetical threads about women. You have another thread active about how women seem to like sweets.

Commenting on another member's other threads is inappropriate and you know it is. Our private message system works great for personal interactions

I am finding threads such as these to be (mostly) a waste of time

Inappropriate and you know it is. If a post or thread is suspected of violating our guidelines, the 'alert us' button is available and we both know how much you wear that out.

You'd do yourself better to look at someone's ACTIONS and see for yourself about what women go for. There is no way this can be described in a single post. Basically though, women go for men who can make them FEEL a certain way, and this has little to do with looks, income, or even how "nice" he is.

There's some topical content. Kudos. If you, or other members, haven't voted in the reopened poll, please do so. We appreciate it.

 

Now back to nice guys and dating. Thanks!

[Imajerk17]

If you, or other members, haven't voted in the reopened poll, please do so. We appreciate it.

 

Now back to nice guys and dating. Thanks!

 

I just voted in the reopened poll (I assume you met the one on paying for dates?)

 

I will rephrase what I said. Instead of asking women whether they like Nice Guys or not, someone would instead be better off observing for himself.

 

I know lots of decent guys (including myself) who are successful in dating. I hardly know of any of my female friends dating scumbags, although I am well aware of many criminals getting lots of letters from women.

 

One thing the guys who are successful in dating have in common is that they are comfortable in themselves, they are comfortable taking up space (physical and psychological) AND they know how to confidently lead.

 

OP you may want to check out "Way Of The Superior Man" by David Deida. Explains a lot of things you are observing that may seem to be a mystery currently.

Edited July 19, 2017 by Imajerk17