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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now.

I am very much possessive of him, Not the usual too controlling or jealous type. But is it natural for me to get jealous and feel so awful because he likes other girls pictures on instagram? i don't mind him following celebrities but following other random girls on instagram really pisses me off and it makes me feel very much insecure abut my own looks and i just kind of feel little betrayed. Your thoughts.

Also I know he is sincere to me and has feelings for me and won't be approaching the girls or whatever.

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You need to work on your self esteem. These women are not threat to you.

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My bf is an average looking guy, according to people I am a great catch and can do much better than him but I really don't understand why he has to follow other random girls out there, it makes me feel like I am not good enough.

I can't confront him regarding this as it would make me look very tupid and he will probably get mad.

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>>I can't confront him regarding this as it would make me look very tupid and he will probably get mad.<<

 

You shouldn't "confront" him, but you can talk about it with him. Confrontation involves taking a fighting stance - but if you talk about how it makes you feel then he'd be more likely to listen.

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I responded to your other post about this situation. That one got more hits.

 

I'll leave the same advice - it's normal and not that weird - as long as he's still the same guy - attentiveness, attention, affection, etc wise.

 

And if you think that way - you'd find that most men wouldn't measure up. If your "friends" tell you those sorts of things I wouldn't be friends with them. JMHO

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But is it natural for me to get jealous and feel so awful because he likes other girls pictures on instagram?

 

but following other random girls on instagram really pisses me off and it makes me feel very much insecure abut my own looks and i just kind of feel little betrayed.

 

Also I know he is sincere to me and has feelings for me and won't be approaching the girls or whatever.

 

Most people have eyes. They look. Sometimes they like what they see. It's a little less obvious IRL but the OL behavior that upsets you happens every day IRL.

 

If you truly believe your BF is sincere & will not cheat on you, stop paying any attention to his OL activities. The virtual world is just that -- not real.

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OP

 

I responded to your other post about this situation. That one got more hits.

 

I'll leave the same advice - it's normal and not that weird - as long as he's still the same guy - attentiveness, attention, affection, etc wise.

 

And if you think that way - you'd find that most men wouldn't measure up. If your "friends" tell you those sorts of things I wouldn't be friends with them. JMHO

 

Thank you so much, Yes I do trust him and I know he wouldn't betray me or anything. He has been sincere to me for years but then at the back of my mind these insecurities really mes me up.

I needed an outside opinion especially from a male to digest it, really appreciate your opinion. I know guys check out girls and have fun but it's harmless.

I didn't want to confront him and make him feel like i keep stalking him, but if i will get a proper chance I will ask about it in a cordial manner.

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now.

I am very much possessive of him, Not the usual too controlling or jealous type. But is it natural for me to get jealous and feel so awful because he likes other girls pictures on instagram? i don't mind him following celebrities but following other random girls on instagram really pisses me off and it makes me feel very much insecure abut my own looks and i just kind of feel little betrayed. Your thoughts.

Also I know he is sincere to me and has feelings for me and won't be approaching the girls or whatever.

 

If this really is the case than I'm not sure what the problem is?

 

This is YOUR issue and your low self esteem. Work on that and your life will improve exponentially.

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I'm sorry folks but TBH I feel it's not appropriate. It's one thing to look, yes everyone looks, but it's another to contact or voicing/acknowledging publicly liking pretty girls on the net.

 

If my husband was doing that he would find himself in a lot of trouble and I doubt he would appreciate me "liking" some shirtless dude bathroom selfie.

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