seekingluck Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 I dated a guy off and on for about a few months, a few years ago On some levels we were a good match. We had good chemistry and fun together. But there were irreconcilable differences, at least from my point of view. I ended it because I wanted something long term and he was a bad fit for that. We did transition to a casual FWB for a few more months. That didn't work out because he ended up getting feelings. So that ended that. I didn't connect the dots that he sourced most of his relationships from his female friends circle. He was working on launching a business during our time together. And he kept me on his list for business news. I generally ignored these emails but one caught my attention. He hit a big milestone so I sent a quick congrats. And that was my mistake. He started emailing me. I just ignored the emails. And now it has escalated to phone calls. Every couple of days for the past 2 weeks. And now it was twice today. Ugh, I shouldn't have sent the friendly message. Lesson learned.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Why don't you block him on your phone if you don't want to talk?
fitnessfan365 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 (edited) I found a few things to be strange in your post. 1) You ended the relationship because you wanted something long term and he didn't. But then you started a FWB arrangement? Isn't this encouraging what you considered "irreconcilable differences"? 2) Then you say he developed feelings for you during that time, which is you originally wanted. So why end things with him instead of just becoming a couple now that he was finally ready? It seems like you were equally responsible for some bad decisions back then. Just saying.. Edited April 19, 2016 by fitnessfan365 3
Author seekingluck Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 I found a few things to be strange in your post. 1) You ended the relationship because you wanted something long term and he didn't. But then you started a FWB arrangement? Isn't this encouraging what you considered "irreconcilable differences"? 2) Then you say he developed feelings for you during that time, which is you originally wanted. So why end things with him instead of just becoming a couple now that he was finally ready? It seems like you were equally responsible for some bad decisions back then. Just saying.. Without going to a huge long story, our FWB arrangement ended like 18 months ago! So I haven't talked to him since then. He wasn't a good long term fit for a bunch of reasons that came apparent later: our upbringings were too different and it caused resentment on his end. He wanted a girlfriend and business partner and I wasn't amenable to that either. So he was a bad fit for something long term. And we were out of touch for well over a year.
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