devore22 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 So some back story… my ex and I dated for five years (I was with him while he was poor, helped him become successful..) We got engaged last May 2015, and broke up in December 2015. The day after we broke up he told me he was going to go see his sister then flew across the country to hook up with a model he met from social media. They immediately started dating.. Not even a week in between and it was thrown in my face all over social media. When we broke up, he told me I could keep the ring to help kickstart me in my new life, he just wanted me to be happy blah blah blah. So 2 months go by and I find out he was cheating on me the entire engagement with multiple women.. So I went and sold the ring. He texted me yesterday after we haven't spoken in months and said it wasn't fair that I got the ring and that he wants it back! I told him I sold it and now he's asking for half the money and wants to talk to lawyers about it. My family and friends loathe him so they tell me that he can go **** himself, but I was wondering if anyone had advice on this type of situation who doesn't have emotions involved? The ring was purchased in Ohio
Neffer Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Legally, the ring was a gift so he is out of luck. Too bad for him
Miss.A Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Legally, the ring was a gift so he is out of luck. Too bad for him Unfortunately, I believe that in most courts engagement rings are considered a "Conditional Gift". And they usually award it to the giver. BUT since he did say you could keep it after the split I'm not 100% sure what the outcome would be. Technically saying you can keep it after the break up might make the ring go from "conditional gift" to just regular gift.
mightycpa Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 From the Ohio State Bar: Q: My fiancée recently ended our engagement and I spent $3,000 on an engagement ring. She refuses to give the ring back. Am I entitled to the ring according to the law? A: Under Ohio law, unless there is an agreement to the contrary, the engagement ring is considered a conditional gift, given in contemplation of marriage. In Ohio, the majority view is that the engagement ring must be returned to you regardless of who ended the engagement and for what reason. When, as in your case, the implied condition of the marriage is not met, then you are entitled to recover the ring or its value, unless there is an agreement to the contrary. Didn't you say there was an agreement to the contrary? That initially he said you could keep the ring? Just because it isn't in writing, and just because you may not have had any witnesses does not mean that you can't win this fight. 2
mightycpa Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 So I've been thinking... I'd probably send your ex an email. In it, I'd write something like: You know, this whole ring business is bothering me. When you broke up with me, you told me that I could keep the ring, because you wanted to help me and you wanted me to be happy. I don't want to feel bad about this. Please tell me what's changed, and don't sugarcoat it. I think I need to hear the absolute honest truth, and then we can make arrangements, take care of business, and I can put all of this behind me and move on with my life. Help me understand. 3
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