Jones19 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 I already have a thread going but i need your thoughts... My girlfriend is really depressed but she as split with me because she doesn't want a relationship at moment. Asking questions i asked her if she was seeing someone else i know i shouldn't have but did She put back .................... If im not ready for you who i love i aint ready for anyone else. Please stop panicin cause it aint helping me,us or u. Im not talking to her at the moment because we are on a break but the question i need to know.. Should i help her as a friend and maybe she will take me back and we will be drawn closer (again) (i can't stop thinking about her and how i should help) or do i stay away and see if she asks me back to come back. Anyone know its doing my head in? thanks.
Treasa Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 No, you should back off and give her space. Show her you respect her feelings by giving her the time she needs. Even if she doesn't come back to you, she'll be appreciative and have respect for you.
Author Jones19 Posted June 18, 2005 Author Posted June 18, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa No, you should back off and give her space. Show her you respect her feelings by giving her the time she needs. Even if she doesn't come back to you, she'll be appreciative and have respect for you. Ok but she said i should her as a friend it would help her she says then we will get back together when she is ready what should i do dunno?
Treasa Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Only be her friend if you can handle the fact that she may NEVER want you back. Only do it if you KNOW you won't pressure her to get back with you. If you still really want her back, then give her space, but nix the friends thing.
BLF04 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 back off. dont call her. just make it clear to her that you'll be there as a friend and if she needs someone to talk to.
scarlyjones Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 You cant break up one day, and the very next begin a simple "friendship". Doesnt work that way. You still have the very same feelings today for her, that you did yesterday. And what exactly would you be "helping" her with? She needs space. If you want to HELP her then give her that space. Im afraid that you sticking around during this space period will only hurt things for you. Dont become THAT guy. The one who WONT go away. Have your dignity. If she truely loves you,...then she will want you back. And isnt that what you really want? Her to "truely" love you? If she doesnt,....then why would you want her anyway?
miss-gonewest Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 My girlfriend is really depressed but she as split with me because she doesn't want a relationship at moment. Im not talking to her at the moment because we are on a break but the question i need to know.. Should i help her as a friend and maybe she will take me back and we will be drawn closer (again) (i can't stop thinking about her and how i should help) or do i stay away and see if she asks me back to come back. She's clearly told you that she doesn't want a relationship, and that she wants some space. There's no question here... If she's depressed, she's got a whole lot to deal with and if you love her, you'll respect her enough to give her time to work through her issues and her emotions on her own. She knows you care, and that you'll support her if she needs it. She knows how to contact you so be patient and wait for her to come to you. She doesn't want to date anyone else, so she really does just want to be alone. Its hard, but you have to do it.
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