Lillia Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Hello everyone.. I am desperately in need of some advice and I really do hope that you are able to help me riddle this situation. Here goes: About nine days ago I broke it off with my beloved boyfriend. We had been together for half a year. When we first met, our souls immediately connected. We were insanely in love and our relationship was pure harmony. Thing is.. he is a gamer - a major one. To begin with I didn't mind and I respected this hobby of his, then he started playing even when we were together; if we were at my place, he would bring his laptop - if we were at his place, he would sit in his family's living room while I would watch him play hours away. I accepted this, hoping that he would eventually discover that this behaviour of his was in reality deeply bothering me. I felt like the bearing giver. If we went to the cinema, he would not buy any sweets himself - he would eat mine and I would not get the chance to have a taste. I am aware that this might sound like a trifle, yet it still utterly nags me.. Eventually, I grew tired and I gathered courage to finally confront him - he did not take this very well and went all in with blaming me, saying that I got upset with the tiniest things, but he did not understand that it was not only the cinema incident bothering me; it was also the fact that he did not ever plan to move out to get his own life at his own home or to get a drivers license. He told me that he planned to stay with his parents till eternity and if I could not accept that I might as well be gone. His dad is rarely home and his mother is a housewife. He wanted me to move in with them under their terms and adapt to their household. They made me feel wrong. I confronted him on a Friday. He decided to act huffed throughout the next incoming week: He would not talk to me and he refused to work out our relationship. It seemed he simply gave up. He was ready to break it off. I had exams during that week, therefore those days were already super hectic for me; he did not care. We also had our anniversary that same week, which he too was completely careless about. I learned that he started playing a new game with his friend and that he was eager to reach the limit level inside the game. I am not saying that couples should be texting or constantly calling each other; but an entire day would pass by before he decided to finally notice me, and when he did, he would only read my text, then wait furthermore hours to reply.. when he then truly replied, the text would usually only contain a smiley. It was very difficult for me to talk things through with him. Later that week, I officially announced that my heart could not bear our relationship any longer. Since I could not get proper in touch with him, I was forced to do it over a text. Once more did he not care. It seemed as if he had only waited for me to just get it over with already. That was when I went berserk: All of my anger and negative thoughts of him escaped me. Although I did not swear at him, I called him things; such as coward and spoiled - these are all truths. Everything was about his needs and his days, he did not care for my interests. Both his and my own friends were all crazily envying him for being with me; I am not interested in glorifying myself, but I am a very beautiful, gentle and kind lass.. that is why I cannot comprehend him. He did not value me the way any other lad would do. After sending him the breakup message, I staight away decided to block him on Facebook.. I ended the message with a small request that he would say goodbye to his family and pet their dogs and cats for me, I also added that I was very honoured and glad to have been a part of their lives, then I wished them the best of fortunate and bliss. He then texts me on my number and I tell him to stop his nonsense; he should not speak to me and no partner would ever be able to bear with his behaviour. He did not reply and we no longer spoke. He blocked my Snapchat, Skype and my best male friend on Facebook. We have not been in touch for exactly a week.. he then adds me on Snapchat and adds me on Facebook with an alternative account of his. I have not checked Skype, since I rarely use that. I am now completely puzzled. He broke my heart and was careless about my tears.. How come he is doing this? He added me on diverse social medias, though without speaking any word to me? He did not send me a text, nor did he attempt on calling me. What should I do now? I have not reacted to any of the requests - should I even? It has been two days since he sent them to me. I broke up with him.. but HE wanted it to end. He did not put any effort in our relationship, whereas I was the only one trying to make it work somehow. I cannot decode his actions and I am in utter despair. I surprisingly moved on easily and quickly.. then I see him showing up everywhere and I am back at stage one; my mind is filled with questions and endless wondering.
LydiaLong Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I think things will start looking up for you. You rid yourself of a dependent child who is hopelessly addicted to games and incapable of giving you a relationship that is satisfying. There are other men out there.
Zahara Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Social media madness. You're young and there is so much more life has to offer you rather than an immature guy that wants to play video games and stay in his parent's basement indefinitely. He can't manage a relationship. Unless he's coming to you speaking of change and wanting to make an effort at being present in your relationship and treating you the way you deserve, I would suggest you pay no heed to social media. Keep him blocked and stop checking up on him. If there is anything significant he has to say, he'll make the effort to see you.
stillafool Posted April 18, 2016 Posted April 18, 2016 Who cares why he is doing what he's doing. You ended it with him and it's over. Start moving forward. Block him on FB and snapchat so you can continue to move on. Questioning stupid motives will only set you back.
mightycpa Posted April 18, 2016 Posted April 18, 2016 Why is a man-child acting irrationally? Is that really your question?
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