My girlfriend keeps photos of the guy who liked her

[Biscuit1]

Hi there to you all. Thanks in advance for your time.

 

The situation is this: My girlfriend of two months keeps the photo of a guy who liked her and the photo of the flowers he gave her at the time. Now they are friends and according to her she doesnt want a relationship with him.

 

Obviously I dont trust him about his intentions with her. I'm ok with her being just friends, but its kinda weird someone saves that kind of pictures during a relationship attempt of him.

 

Plus that, my gf avoided kissing me in public during her birthday dinner a month ago. He was there.

 

What do you think of her actions? Do you believe she has some feelings for him, despite not wanting a relationship?

[Satu]

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*I'm ok with her being just friends, but its kinda weird someone saves that kind of pictures during a relationship attempt of him.

 

 

*No, you're not.

 

Don't pretend that you are.

 

If you can't accept this friendship, you'll have to be upfront about it.

 

 

Take care.

[Biscuit1]

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*No, you're not.

 

Don't pretend that you are.

 

If you can't accept this friendship, you'll have to be upfront about it.

 

 

Take care.

 

 

I mean im OK (I dont aprove or disaprove). I cannot tell her what friends she wants to pick. As long as they are just friends to me is fine... I dont trust him thats all.

And I just dont want to be apart of this "friend" circle, so I avoid being with him. I have to right to do so. She has the right to be with him also

[Satu]

I mean im OK (I dont aprove or disaprove). I cannot tell her what friends she wants to pick. As long as they are just friends to me is fine... I dont trust him thats all.

And I just dont want to be apart of this "friend" circle, so I avoid being with him. I have to right to do so. She has the right to be with him also

 

If thats the case, why bother posting about it here?

[Otter2569]

It may be uncomfortable but why not ask her about it and let her know how it makes you feel?

 

What's the worst that can happen?

[smackie9]

She keeps the photos for an ego boost, she didn't kiss you in front of him because she feels bad because he has feelings for her. I think you should have a conversation with her about this and tell her she owes him nothing, and stop feeling guilty about rejecting him....he will get over it, and the only way he will get over it is to let him go so he can.

 

She is very emotionally attached to him, and it can be very difficult to let go of that dependency, but she needs to if she is going to be able to progress with your relationship.