difficult_decisions Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 How many of you have had this experience, where you dated someone that got comfortable with you quick, came over to your place as if you two were in a relationship, only to have a conversation down the line where it confused you about where they stood? Girl I'm seeing for a little over 2 months now is exactly that. She wants the benefits of me treating her like a BF while not committing, saying things like "I don't want us to have any expectations" "we're kinda like FWB, but dating and a little more than that?" I've had enough. I'm trying to gather all my strength right now to find a way to tell her that I can't deal with this. It's unfair to me. Any pointers on doing this the right way? Side question - How many of you have done this and seen them run back to you? What did you do in that situation (just in case this happens to me lol) 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I've had enough. I'm trying to gather all my strength right now to find a way to tell her that I can't deal with this. It's unfair to me. Any pointers on doing this the right way? By telling her straight up you've had enough and you can't deal with not knowing where you stand. If you don't get the answer you want, wish her well on her way and let her figure out what she wants in her own time. Best case, she comes back to you after a while, you're still both single and interested and life's good. Worst case, you dogded a bullet and life's still good. 4
smackie9 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 You know where you stand....you are there until she finds the one she actually wants to be with.....she doesn't like being alone so you will do for now. You want a serious relationship? then walk away. Don't kid yourself she DOES know what she wants....it's not you. 3
Satu Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 If it doesn't feel right, it isn't right for you. Just tell her what you've told us: "You want the benefits of me treating you like a BF while not committing, saying things like "I don't want us to have any expectations" "we're kinda like FWB, but dating and a little more than that?" "I've had enough." Take care. 2
privategal Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Do you know what you want? If its her...tell her and ask her to commit or let you go. If you go...lock the door behind you, she lost her chance. Life is too short to string people along like "not good enough to be THE one, but good enough for now" Who NEEDS that. Either in or out and I dont believe in second chances. Put it on the table...here are my cards...where do you stand? She walks? Then...she walks. Cool. Its summer, fun to be single and enjoy the sunshine drama free! 1
Satu Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 do you know what you want? If its her...tell her and ask her to commit or let you go. If you go...lock the door behind you, she lost her chance. Life is too short to string people along like "not good enough to be the one, but good enough for now" who needs that. Either in or out and i dont believe in second chances. Put it on the table...here are my cards...where do you stand? She walks? Then...she walks. Cool. Its summer, fun to be single and enjoy the sunshine drama free! ^^^this^^^
Buddhist Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 It's simple. Know what you want, tell her, if she can't come to the party. Let her go and wish her well. Here's the truth.... If someone is wishy washy, can't commit to you it's because they don't want you. What they want is to use your resources (time, energy, affection) for selfish reasons until they find someone they want to reciprocate with. Non-reciprocal relationships are a waste of time.
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