alicyn Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I went on a first date with someone I met online. We had been exchanging emails for weeks so meeting was very exciting for both of us. We met for drinks and had a great time together talking, laughing etc. I was having fun so we continued hanging out for several hours. At the end of the night we had a few cocktails and were a little tipsy (but OK to drive!). He gave me a ride to my car and I leaned in to hug him as I was saying goodbye...I was expecting him to turn his head for a hug or cheek peck, but he moved in facing me, and we kissed. It just happened. The kiss was more than I expected too. He was definitely forward but at the same time it felt good. I had to stop the kiss, said goodnight, and then I left. I returned his passionate kiss....what does he think of me now? We both had some alcohol so that definitely played a part. I just wonder if there is still potential for a second date or if we both 'blew it' already? 1
Erik30 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Don't worry, there's no problem at all. Nothing wrong with that kiss since you both were into it. He's probably thinking that he just went on a great first date. 4
Otter2569 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 If it was a great kiss he is thinking that he definitely wants to go out with you again. If it was an ok kiss then he's most likely going to want to go out with you again. I'm old fashioned (sarcasm), if I have a great time with someone then I am always going for the kiss. I am a kisser - what can I say. Best dates lead to good kissing - IMO. If its a bad date or I dont feel a connection then I give a hug. To me anything other than a decent kiss is like a consolation prize: thanks but no thanks if you know what I mean. I have had several relationships from OLD and every first dated ended with solid kissing and even a hot make out session. One mans perspective. 1
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I did OLD for about a month several years back, after a long breakup phase from my ex ex. I had sex on both first dates...it wasn't arranged, it wasn't expected...but one liked me/wasn't attracted, the other I liked/they weren't attracted to me. So nothing came of either. But...yeah, sex on two first dates. Without even wanting to get it or expecting it. Mad. And did I think bad of the two girls I met on there? No. Just adults making decisions. But neither date was particularly romantic. So...you are quite sweet for being that way. I always kiss on a first date. In all honesty, I prefer it that way. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Some people have sex on or before a first date. I'm sure his view of you based on the kiss is positive especially since it was a good kiss. While kissing on the 1st date might not be your preferred style it's certainly not unheard of. To me, it's the hallmark of a great date. Relax. 2
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Yeah. I like it. It's old fashioned. If it was a nice date and it leads to something great, then you'll always remember it with that romantic little twist. 1
len51 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I always enjoyed a kiss on the first date. It told me that my date found me attractive and sexually desirable. That meant there was a very good chance of full on sex in the near future. I hate to be crass but when I was younger and dating, I was not looking for a wife. I was looking for a lover who enjoyed sex as much as I did. I never judged a woman by how many times she had sex or what she did sexually with me on the first date. Most often I had full sex on the first date. Never thought any less of a woman for doing so. I wanted an experienced woman who showed her desire for me immediately. That is how I met my wife and we are now married over 40 years. 1
Satu Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 There's nothing at all wrong with it if you both wanted to do it. 1
preraph Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 No. You should kiss on the first date if you have any attraction for the person. Then you know whether they're a good kisser and whether they're confident enough to kiss you on the first date -- and that is all very valuable information to have going forward. 2
Otter2569 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 What is the old saying: if you want to catch some fish you have to put out some bait! I trust he will want to go out with you again but be repaired, he is going to want to kiss you again too! Kiss early, kiss often is my motto! LOL
Jabron1 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Bless your heart Kissing on the first date simply tells the guy that you like him, and that there is something worth pursuing. If its a bad date or I dont feel a connection then I give a hug. To me anything other than a decent kiss is like a consolation prize: thanks but no thanks if you know what I mean. Agreed. If i'm hugging you, something's up 1
Photofinish Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I wouldnt do it but that's the way I work lol. I mean people have sex on the first date which is far worse. Goodluck !
smackie9 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 What does he think of you now??? He knows you like him too 1
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