RLG1959 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Hi everyone.. Im new to loveshack and well im looking for support and advices. I will try not to make this a long post that will drain your eyes. She is 23 ..im 25. We have seen each other for 1 month and a week over the 6 months relationship that we have. She lives in Germany and I in florida. Without no shame I will what I def conside to be the flaws so far from my side. Im a 25 years old who has made nothing but mistakes in the past. Currently i dont hold a degree or nothing that defines me in life...my life doesnt seem much interesting yet I dont let myself down with that and keep pushimg forward. Im very humorous person and mad at times but very good at being in a relationship and I understand what a relationahip entails..yet i still got some flaws to work on. We met at miami when she was visiting and instantly fell in lover with each other. That was a week sharing together. After that it was long distsnce..over that course I been in and out of jobs but still surviving. Recently she came to visit me in february for over a month just to be with me. She rented a hotel and all and i supportrd by renting a car and a few outs. After that i went financially drain since i had problems with my job and she took over the finances for me. This made me feel ashamed but we talked about it and she was supportive. She left and was even more in love than before nevauae we had the chance to spend a whole month together. Suddenly weeks after she started to be a bit non talkative over the phone as we chat almost all hours a day. Out of the blue we started arguing and she told me that she is unhappy about us because we cant be together and that she doesnt see a future due to the distance and bumps on the road that we have to confront, as well that is emotionally difficult for her. Such as wait a couple years to be together etc since i will moving to germany to start a live with her. At the present time i dont hold a job due to economic reasons but im getting it all back together and currently pursing a good pay job and making lots of move. She told me then after the argument she needs a break..she feels emotinally drained since long distamce relationship requires lots of work . I can understand that. She was a bit contradicting saying a break then a break from the relationship but yet she has on me on her facebook and instagram as in a relationship status with pictures and all...and all her friend knows me and I to them. Again from my side i may been a bit clingy always texting her every day and even sometimes being a bit overjealous. Other than that I havent be a pushover etc. This happened today. When i got the is not you..but me line. Or you deserve better you may realise im a mess along the way... i instantly knew this may as well be over. Yet in all social medias she hasnt change any status or taken pictures down etc. Whatssapp. Facebook and instagram. Im a 25 years old mature man ...i wasnt born yesterday and i know i need a break means either she is easy droppoing down the break up or shes keeping me on the backburner if other guy is in the picture( she told me no other guy is in her mind but me) Still Im accepting already it is over as I know how this goes. Bad small mistske yet is day number one i did overreacted , wrote long messages in whatsapp etc..told her ways we can work the distance out and how i can be there in less time. Yet she keep putting stones in the way about this or that. On the good side i didnt message like apologizing all the time or saying i love you 100 times. What should I actually do guys? On a 50% im already at that point of accepting it is over..but why she still has me in all social medias even the profile pictures is of her and me together. Even the relationship status..if it was over then all thay woulda been change damn quick. Should I go no contact ...she hasnt answered and i was the last to message asking hows work yet not an answer and usually she writes back fast dying to talk to me. Please advices. Thanks to all and I will appreciate your support. And...yes..I loves this Lady. I thank you for taking your time to read .
Bliss09 Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 I'm sorry for what you are going through. I would say to go no contact. I'm currently doing the same in my relationship. If anything set a time limit for your break. 30 days, 60 days, etc. If she won't agree to a time limit, then there is your answer. Give her time to miss you, and give yourself time too. After the set time, who knows where you will be at emotionally, or if you will even still want to be with her. If you love her, you should give her a shot to figure some things out for herself, but do not get caught in the waiting game forever. Set limit. Best of luck.
Recommended Posts