Katie1227 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 was trying to make arrangements to travel and meet my MM. 5 months ago I met him, he was from out of town. We dated three months and we finally had sex. Boy, was it hot. He went back to his city. I hadn't heard from him until recently. So I made all the arragnement to met, set-up my excuse ( was depressed and needed time to myself ) I also booked the hotel....blah...blah..... Here is the deal: It's friday and he notices that I have dyed my hair, shaved my leggs. Jokingly he asked me where I am going somewhere? If I were him, even though I trusted that person- I would wonder why are they doing something to gussey-up when I was so depressed. Questions: How can I get around this potentail problem now? MM says that he hadn't had sex since me (dec ), should I still make him were a condom? I could take a day trip, but I really wanted to sleep with him all nite - just once, any suggestions
newbby Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 MM says that he hadn't had sex since me (dec ), should I still make him were a condom? definetly, yes!!! mm (pl) lie, also you take away your husbands choice (if an i think it sounds like you have one) of whether he would take this risk or not. as for the rest, i dont understand, are you saying you're married too?, and your h suspects something? wouldnt this reply be too late anyway? i dont think i can really help you because i dont know why you are having this a, if its purely boredom, end it now and do a college course or some other hobby. if you have a nice husband dont risk it all. if you are desperately unhappy in your marriage and you want to leave then leave. if you have a nice h, and it sounds like you do, then appreciate it, many would envy you.
newbby Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 for most here the shoe is on the other foot, i.e, they are actually in love with a married person and taking the relationship seriously. if you are serious about this other guy, you also have a problem, he is married, so you better read around here before you fall in love with him.
Katie3505 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 This guy is not one I would truley fall for. I figure if he cheats on her, well he will .......on me. I would really like to screw him again. He was wonderful and romantic and is giving me the "new feeling of excitement" and he turns me on. Yes I am married and he is trusing, kind, loving, a male chavist pig, worrys about me and he trys hard in bed. Me, I am evil. I plan on doing this one way or another. But back to my problem......now what do I do? I may have revealed my plans.
Michael86 Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Do your husband a big favor and leave him and let him find someone that deserves and respects him. Because that certainly isn't you. Hopefully, he's already on to you.
LatinGoddess Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Katie, You'll get scorched on this forum, no matter what the name is. They don't really help you by telling you to leave your husband. My opinion is that you know what you're getting yourself into and if you get caught then you'll have to deal. As for your question on revealing your plans, I would just tell your husband that you're depressed and want to do anything to pick yourself up. Make the MM wear a condom, you don't want a child by another married man, that would bring along a whole set of new problems. Be safe and be careful. People she asked for advice on her situation she didn't ask you for your moral stand point of view on leaving her husband or anything else. Why not try to stick to what she asked you for and if you can't do that then don't bother replying to her post. *rolls eyes*
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Since you are determined, may as well deal with a dose of ugly reality. This MM sounds like an ass, and it sounds like your H is already on to you. 1. How can I get around this potentail problem now? 2. MM says that he hadn't had sex since me (dec ), should I still make him were a condom? 3. I could take a day trip, but I really wanted to sleep with him all nite - just once, any suggestions Me, I am evil. I plan on doing this one way or another. 1. You can't. Your H is already on to you and its only a matter of time now until he confronts you. Start thinking in terms of 'exit strategy'. What will you do when he confronts you with the evidence of your affair? What will you do when he asks for a divorce? What will you do if he puts all your stuff on the front lawn and changes the locks? What will you do when your H calls this guy's W and tells her? What will you do when he tells all your friends, family, peer, and colleagues that you are sleeping around? Don't fool yourself into thinking you can continue to gaslight him. He probably already has a PI on your tail. 2. I hope you didn't buy that line. Have him wear a condom. 3. Book your hotel and overnight trip sooner than later, because the more your H finds out over time - the less you are going to be able to get away with lying and manipulating him. I hadn't heard from him until recently. So I made all the arragnement to met, set-up my excuse (was depressed and needed time to myself ) I also booked the hotel....blah...blah..... Heh.. this MM has you jumping through all sorts of hoops doesn't he? I hope you at least realize that your only worth to this man is how financially and physically convenient you make your vagina to him, at your own expense. It doesn't sound like he cares for you at all outside of how willing you are to make yourself available. The screwing you do with this guy may be hot, but it won't be anything compared to the royal screwing you are setting yourself up for.
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Originally posted by Katie3505 This guy is not one I would truley fall for. I figure if he cheats on her, well he will .......on me. I would really like to screw him again. He was wonderful and romantic and is giving me the "new feeling of excitement" and he turns me on. Yes I am married and he is trusing, kind, loving, a male chavist pig, worrys about me and he trys hard in bed. Me, I am evil. I plan on doing this one way or another. But back to my problem......now what do I do? I may have revealed my plans. I'm sorry to say this, but you've taken a very selfish attitude on this. Basically you are OK with sleeping with another woman's husband, have some HOT sex, have no intention of falling for him, you're married, to a good man, and you STILL wanna be with this MM?? Are you for real?? Take into consideration ALL the people who will get hurt by your actions. I certainlly hope you don't have any children. Have you thought of HIS children? (if he has any) His wife? I guess I just don't understand you're willingness to intentionally 'be' with this man, knowing all that you know. You seem to be thinking quite clearly and making choices that IS going to impact everybody involved eventually. Why even post here? Nobody will give you the blessing that you want. You're gonna do what you're gonna do whether I, or anybody else says "don't do it!" I can only advise you not to put yourself in a situation where it's a lose-lose ending. And very painful lose-lose ending might I add.
LatinGoddess Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 I do not think she came on here to get bashed by anyone. I am married and had been seeing my MM for two years and a bit. I feel like you guys are not answering her post in the manner in which she asked it. She didn't ask you to give her your opinion on what she is doing, she asked you people to give her some advice. I can't believe the nerve of some of you. So why not give her some real insight instead of wasting her time with your moral judgements?
newbby Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 maybe because most people here have been decieved by married people and what they wanted was a serious relationship and they have unwillingly been part of the mm's lies and deception to his wife, but at the time were unsure of what was actually going on in the mm's home. the original poster is obviously not seing somebodywho is serious about her but to someone who has been the ow, knowing thatall their love and investment in the relationship all boils down to this, what this woman is describing. i'm not judging, i just dont want to talk about ways to decieve just for abit of fun.
CurlyIam Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Helping her with a good advice would equal answering a person who's on cocaine: look, I have a turn on when I flagelate myself. what's your pov, should I use a whip or a stick to beat myself up? We could say: whip. It would answer her problem. However, telling her that the minute the drug wears off, she'll be in terrible pain and all her body will be sore seems the more sensible approach. She's obvious and she doesn't even have the decency to prepare herself outside the view of her husband. She may see herself as evil, but she's also as dumb as a post. Her husband may be a pig, but if he's got any part of his brain still working he'll be able to add one and one together and bust her lying arse. Actually, we're the ones doing her a favour, not you, LatinGoddess.
sylviaguardian Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 I don't understand this. Why are you all attacking this person but giving advice and sympathy to everyone else. So it's Ok to invade someone else's marriage if you 'fall in love'but not OK if you just want sex?
SexKitten Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Originally posted by Katie3505 he is trusing, kind, loving, a male chavist pig, worrys about me and he trys hard in bed. one of these things is not like the others....and is mangled, spelling-wise...
XNemesisX Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Me, I am evil. I plan on doing this one way or another. This is what REALLY scares me about humanity. You realize what you are doing is wrong, but you blatantly don't care. You care about no one but yourself. I may have sympathy for you if you were in love with the MM but since you are only wanting him for the pleasure of your pu$$y - well that is just jacked up. What is so bad about your husband? Does he not satisfy you in bed? Or were you just wanting some strange? You reap what you sew, I hope you realize this. Wouldn't it suck if your H left you, the MM didn't want to see you anymore, and you are left alone and miserable? You are not 16, so realize there are consequences to your actions and the truth always has a way of coming out....
Katie3505 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 To all my bashers - Your right I care only for myself. I always do what I want to do. You know and I admit I am evil. So, again I ask: What do you suggest, if nothing, you don't need to reply. To Latin Goddess - Hey thanks for your suggestion! Hopefully all is well with my spelling this post. Kisses Kate
SexKitten Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 you're going to get all kinds of advice here. not all of them are going to condone a behaviour that is seen as very wrong by many people. they are making suggestions--they're suggesting you don't make a huge mistake. you are looking for someone to justify what you're doing,and you found one supporter and several "bashers." but since you've already justified it to yourself, what's the problem?
XNemesisX Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 I'm not sure exactly what you are wanting to know. You want to know if you should make him wear a condom? Uh...yes! If you are not on the pill then you should probably do that unless you want to possibly get preggers by him. And I agree with SexKitten...you HAVE got advice. People are trying to forewarn you... I don't think many people want to help you scheme a way to get away with this if that is what you are wanting to know.... I guess what I want to know is exactly what is wrong with your H? You didn't answer that from my other post. Is he doing something you don't like or not doing it for you in bed? Is there any reason for you to do this? Are you young and got married too early? Idk...if you want some more kind/compassionate advice then you might want to fill in those details....
Katie3505 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 My problem with my H is that he is by best friend. BTW, all I wanted to know was, again, any suggestion on how to get away from here without making my H suspicious. Since this is the first time since Dec that I would have brought on suspicious, if that is an issue with H; he trusts me too much. You don't have to tell me the other "non-solicited advice". Hey, didn’t I hear that there is a co. that will help me with an excuse or alibi? Anyone?
SexKitten Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by Katie1227 Questions: How can I get around this potentail problem now? MM says that he hadn't had sex since me (dec ), should I still make him were a condom? I could take a day trip, but I really wanted to sleep with him all nite - just once, any suggestions Originally posted by Katie3505 You don't have to tell me the other "non-solicited advice". this is the advice you asked for. just because it isn't what you want to hear doesn't mean it's not advice pertaining to your situation. so how to get around this potential problem now? get over it and start acting like an adult instead of a spoiled, selfish child. there you go.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Maybe try a half-truth? Go ahead and book your trip, and just tell him you want to get away on your own for the night. Just leave out the part about the MM. There's absolutely no lie you'll be able to pull off after he's already picked up on your behavior. He isn't really going to believe anything you say. Never underestimate the gut feelings and suspicions of a betrayed spouse. He may not tell you that he is on to you - but the fact that he has joked you about it suggests that there is fire where that smoke is. He may have already done some internet searching on 'signs of infidelity' and is putting two and two together even as you are scrounging together the money for the hotel room that the MM is going to make you go out of your way to book and pay for. I know you don't want to hear this, but you really will want to consider what is going to happen when you get caught. You have yourself convinced you are getting away with this, and that your H is too dumb and trusting to notice you getting yourself all tarted up. He saw you do this for him once. Don't think he won't notice it again: particularly when its not with him. If he is joking you about it, then on some level he knows.
whichwayisup Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 He may know already. Who knows? Maybe he has hired a PI to follow you. Never say never. When a BS realizes that cheating actually could be going on, you never know to what lengths they'll do to find out. Keep that in mind while you're having some fun on the side... Unfortunately on LS many people have different opinions. You will hear things that you don't want to hear, so you can ignore them completely or react. I tell ya from past posters, the more you react and get in others faces, you're gonna get it back. So take what you want out of the replies that will benefit you and forget the rest. I'm sure I'm one you'll forget as I'm not about to give you advice on how to please your MM and ruin lives. Sorry, I am just telling it as it is from where I sit. This whole situation is not going to last forever and you may actually one day totally regret ALL your present actions. Somewhere inside you, there has to be a voice screaming out that it's just wrong to intentionally hurt your husband. If you don't love him, then end the marriage!
XNemesisX Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 WWIU made a good point. What if he has a PI following you? You know I'm pretty sure that if a betrayed spouse can prove infidelity then you will lose all your rights to property in the case of a divorce. Better be careful! If you really want my advice on how to scam your husband then why don't you just tell him you are going to go stay with a friend for the night who needs to talk to someone? Idk...that is a tricky one. I'm sure you are sending red flags left and right that you are cheating especially if you want to stay all night somewhere. I wouldn't be surprised at all if there is a private investigator on your tail. But anyway, why don't you ask your MM what he tells his wife to get out of the house?
StillHurtin Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by Katie3505 To all my bashers - Your right I care only for myself. I always do what I want to do. You know and I admit I am evil. So, again I ask: What do you suggest, if nothing, you don't need to reply. To Latin Goddess - Hey thanks for your suggestion! Hopefully all is well with my spelling this post. Kisses Kate Is your real name Katie and not T***** (wont put in her real name)? You sound EXACTLY like the OW my H had an A w/ while we were separated. She admitted to me she didn't care if a man was MM or not, she was going to go after them. She also had the attitude of not caring for anyone else but herself and does what she wants to do, regardless of who she hurts. As for the condom, yes use one. If he is screwing around on his W w/ you, he could be screwing around w/ OW besides you. As for giving you advice on how to hide your A from your H, I can't help you on that one as I never have cheated on my H.
Author Katie1227 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Posted June 19, 2005 Well, well, after all my planning and focused fantasies, with a text message he told me he can't meet me: but not to worry the flame is still burning. I responded, isn't for me....adious. I am relieved. I think I will go screw my best freind now. Stillhurtin - what is the last initial for the name that starts with a T?
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