Sunnylover21 Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 I really like this guy, I see him everyday and I think there's something there - body language, "accidental" touching, we were even invited to a couples dinner party together by our mutual friends who keep mentioning setting us up. The thing is it hasn't gone any further, and I think it's my fault. I think I've turned into that girl that makes it seem like you're doing her a favour by talking to her. It's not intentional, I'm just really shy around him and find it hard to carry a conversation sometimes. Don't get me wrong, it's not awkward when we talk, but it's definitely dominated by him because I suddenly get tounge tied. How do I get over this and stop sending these mixed signals?! I need to find a way to be braver!
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Psych yourself up before you see him. Make a point to plaster a bright smile on your face & say hello.
Versacehottie Posted April 17, 2016 Posted April 17, 2016 Knowingly "TAKE A RISK". Sure we all get shy (shier) around the ones we like. There is a biological reason for it. So I think in your situation if you don't have somewhat of a plan and think it will just happen in the moment, you are not going to fare well. So brainstorm a bunch of things you could/would/should say to him that either show a deeper interest in getting to know him better/being interested in him or that are blatantly flirty. Then when the conversation goes onto the subject which matches up with the stuff you've brainstorm, take a breath and "jump", ie take a risk. You'll be prepared in kind of knowing what you want to say; i'm not going to lie, it will probably feel a bit awkward and come out a bit awkward. But here's the thing: I doubt he's spending all this time with you as a friend. He probably likes you as well and is waiting for a moment like this from you. Even if it comes out awkwardly, trust me both of you will feel relieved and excited by it. You will get closer and he will get some clarity. You don't want to have any regrets because if you cannot bridge this, what if you lose him? Jump...
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