mortensorchid Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 (edited) I had been chatting with this man on Tinder for the last two weeks or so. He seemed like a decent enough guy, then this evening he sent a message asking if I wanted to meet. I drive for Uber at nights now, I told him I would see him at a coffee shop he suggested before I go on the road, he said ok. I get there and he is waiting. We had a decent conversation, our grand total time together was about an hour and a half. He is 38, divorced and has one child. We talked about things to get to know each other (what you do for a living, what you do for fun, etc.). We talked about stuff we like (Star Wars, James Bond, etc.). The first red flag rose up when he asked if I had used the Tinder app before and I said I had, off and on for the last year or so. I said my luck with it is pretty much like other dating websites, sometimes you actually meet someone and sometimes you just chat here and there and then the person goes *poof*, no real difference between this and others. He then asked me if I had had sex with people I had met online. I said "I'm not telling you." He asked "Why not?" I said because I'm not telling you. When he asked "Why not?" for the third time, I said "Because I AIN'T CRAZY, that's why." Then he said he was going to call it a night and I was going to go on the road and drive. We get to the parking lot, I get to my car and said "this is me". He then says "Well hope you are safe tonight, see ya", then walks away. No handshake, hug or anything. Another dead end. Ah well, life goes on. Edited April 16, 2016 by mortensorchid Additional info
Poppyolive Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 Don't give up. Tinder and all the others can be tedious. Stay safe, have fun. 1
Dis Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 Yup I hear you, online dating is like that. Most times dates with guys dont turn out super well. I was getting discouraged up until the second date with this guy I'm dating now. He's such a good guy, we already have a great connection. We both are equally into each other. Sparks are there, and both a mental and physical connection is there too. As far as this guy asking you if you had sex with other guys from online dating sites...that is out of line!!!! Good for you telling him thats none of his business. He was obvisouly turned off by your reponse or what he interpreted from your response. But oh well....no loss there. He wasnt the right one. My mom and my gfs told me it would take alot of dates with alot of guys to find the right one. They were right. Dont feel bad about it, onto the next!
fitnessfan365 Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 I wouldn't say that asking about Tinder in and of itself is a red flag. You meet online and topics like that are bound to come up. But the online sex thing is when it all went south obviously. But at the very least you found out what his motives were early on. In general though, a guy that asks to meet day of isn't showing much respect for your schedule. Better to focus on guys that make plans in advance. Hopefully the next one goes better!
bluefeather Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 He seemed like a decent enough guy... Fix that radar.
Author mortensorchid Posted April 16, 2016 Author Posted April 16, 2016 Someone once upon first contact made a sexual reference to me, I immediately unmatched myself from him. Quality certainly is hard to find. And this guy from this story isn't much, he proved himself to be that is. I can only hope that someday, somehow it will happen. 1
Dis Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 Someone once upon first contact made a sexual reference to me, I immediately unmatched myself from him. Quality certainly is hard to find. And this guy from this story isn't much, he proved himself to be that is. I can only hope that someday, somehow it will happen. Oh hun, dont despair! I promise it WILL happen! OLD takes alot of time and effort. Be paitent and you'll be rewarded. Go into every date with 0 expectations. Learn from previous dates/experiences. And most importantly...have fun with it! Dating can be really fun if you loosen up the reins and learn to take it for what it is. Every date is a step in the right direction that will lead you to the right guy. Be hopeful because it WILL happen! 1
Buddhist Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 Well another paragraph you can add to your upcoming book 1001 Reasons Mid-life Men are Single.
Lois_Griffin Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 He then asked me if I had had sex with people I had met online. I said "I'm not telling you." He asked "Why not?" I said because I'm not telling you. When he asked "Why not?" for the third time, I said "Because I AIN'T CRAZY, that's why." Then he said he was going to call it a night and I was going to go on the road and drive. Yet another mouth-breather hoping to get lucky. Cretin. Some of them just don't evolve. You seem to have met an entire colony of them over the last few years.
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