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Quick Question - When to say Thank You


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Hello,

 

I normally don't do lunch dates during the week, but I just had a good first date over lunch today.

 

It was an hour and a half or so and he paid. I think we both had a good time and expressed seeing me again. He gave me a nice kiss on the cheek and hug and I hugged him back. I am hoping I made it clear somehow I am open to meeting again.

 

I always send a thank you text, usually the next day after an evening date, to show my appreciation if they paid and also give a nudge that I may be interested.

 

I would like to do the same here, but unsure when to send it. Should I send it this evening or wait until tomorrow?

 

What are your thoughts?

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This evening is probably better. Tomorrow he'll be happy too but a thank you text tonight, he'll have a better sleep acknowledging you two had a great time together ;)

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I send TY texts within hours of whatever I'm thanking the person for.

 

It's already early evening here. If you send it now, the time says either 1). you have nothing else going on on a Friday night or 2). you are rude enough to text him while out with others.

 

So tomorrow before 12 noon is your best bet IMO.

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I send TY texts within hours of whatever I'm thanking the person for.

 

It's already early evening here. If you send it now, the time says either 1). you have nothing else going on on a Friday night or 2). you are rude enough to text him while out with others.

 

So tomorrow before 12 noon is your best bet IMO.

 

We are on the west coast, so it is only 4:30 here, still too late?

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No. Sent it now. If it was closer to 7 I'd say don't send it. Within the business day you are good to go.

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I send TY texts within hours of whatever I'm thanking the person for.

 

It's already early evening here. If you send it now, the time says either 1). you have nothing else going on on a Friday night or 2). you are rude enough to text him while out with others.

 

So tomorrow before 12 noon is your best bet IMO.

 

....It's rude to text somebody when he might or might not be busy? What the actual what? The entire reason texting exists is that you can send and reply at any point in time, without interrupting the receiver.

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No. Sent it now. If it was closer to 7 I'd say don't send it. Within the business day you are good to go.

 

Awesome, thanks for the input. Just sent it.

 

I am good with however he responds (or doesn't), but I want to make sure I was cordial and gave him the right impression.

 

Thanks

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....It's rude to text somebody when he might or might not be busy? What the actual what? The entire reason texting exists is that you can send and reply at any point in time, without interrupting the receiver.

 

Not that the recipient is busy that the sender was texting while she was out with others.

 

 

She had a lunch date with him. If she sent the text on Friday night she would telegraph that she didn't Friday night plans. I would advise that she maintain a little mystery & not confirm her plans. On the other hand if she was out with friends or even on another date it would be rude for her to be sending texts to other people other than paying attention to her companions.

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Oh please. Just send the damn text and stop over-intellectualizing it.

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Yeah, it really came down to what is the most courteous thing to do. I did send the text and he responded with a promising, flirty comeback.

 

We will see what he does next, but it always makes me feel good to send a thank you text (at the right time) after they treat me. 9 out of 10 times it leads to a second date.

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