Jim nine three Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 So,I went out on a date with a girl yesterday.It was not the first time something occurred between us but last time was a long while back so it is insignificant at this point.Anyway,she was the one who proposed we go out for a drink and I agreed. Date was good,not slightly awkward and there was a lot of teasing.We playfully grabbed each other,she was laying onto me quite often,however I was a bit hesitant and I didn't really go for a kiss.So after a couple of hours on the date she had to go,so we went to the bus stop so she could take the bus.The bus came instantly and the goodbye was really fast.We kissed on the cheek but like right next to the mouth and she told me she was really happy to see me again.I sent her a text when I arrived home about an inside joke we made and we sent a couple of text back and forth but nothing significant. Do you think I blew my chance by not kissing her?The fact that she wasn't really trying to keep the text conversation after the date going makes me think that i did,however I am not so sure about that.And what should my next move be?Ask her to hang out again or wait for her to reach out to me?
Elwood Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 She probably did want you to kiss her. I was in a situation with an ex where I should have taken the chance but didn't and she slipped away. However, just set up another date and go for it. 1
PegNosePete Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Do you really think she would write you off because you didn't kiss her on a first (or is it second) date? If so, do you really want to date someone who would write you off just because you didn't kiss them?!?! Just go for it, ask her out again and take it from there. You have nothing to lose. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Although she was unequivocally giving you the green light you didn't blow it by not kissing her. Relax. You will blow it if you continue to think that you can tell anything by text message. Text messages are a convenience not a platform to develop or nurture a relationship. Call her -- use the voice feature of the phone. Ask her on another date. Kiss her hello on the cheek. Kiss her for real during or at the conclusion of that date. 1
Author Jim nine three Posted April 15, 2016 Author Posted April 15, 2016 I see your point.You are most probably right.If she is into me like she showed on the date then there is nothing to worry about. Now,my question is : Should I wait for her to reach out and then ask her on another date?Should I ask her today or tomorrow if she would like to hang out or should I wait a couple of days then get in touch with her? I don't want to come off as needy or anything of the short,however I don't thing I should linger too long waiting for another go at this.
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Now,my question is : Should I wait for her to reach out and then ask her on another date?Should I ask her today or tomorrow if she would like to hang out or should I wait a couple of days then get in touch with her? The Rules -- that silly book from the 1990s that said a woman should never date a man who asks her out the next day & shouldn't accept a date after Wednesday are antiquated drivel. The only thing books like that offer are the fundamental truth that self confidence is sexy on both sides. Call her when the mood strikes you but do not blow up her phone. One method of contact per day -- not 20 texts, 3 phone calls, 2 PMs on social media & liking everything she posts on FB, IG & Snapchat. You are a Man not a puppy dog begging for table scraps, spinning around, yipping & hoping she'll notice you. Ask her on a date. School boys "hang out" with girls they like. Real men plan actual dates.
truth_seeker Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Real men plan actual dates. This on a t-shirt?
Author Jim nine three Posted April 15, 2016 Author Posted April 15, 2016 Point taken Well,since we already texted earlier today,I think I will leave it at that and ask her out on a date tomorrow.Judging from her level of interest yesterday she will most probably be willing to go out on a date again. Now,if I really blew it off the first time around she will start acting flaky about it and I should probably remove my attention and start pursuing other interests,right?
Author Jim nine three Posted April 16, 2016 Author Posted April 16, 2016 So,I texted her today to plan another date.Her responses were kinda short to be honest.I asked her if she would like to go out with me again.She said sure but not until next Wednesday because her schedule is full.I said sure let me know when you are available and she said sure. Now,I tried to translate this as good as I could but her responses were pretty flaky and she was pretty vague about when the next date will be. Does the fact that she responded this way mean anything or am I reading too much into this?
Poutrew Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 She said she would let you know, so now you wait. If she texts you then fine, you get the green light. If she doesn't , then just forget her. She blew you off. Don't text her again- you will come off as a clingy beta boy, begging for her affection. Sometimes, the best course of action is to do nothing, and that is where you are now.
Author Jim nine three Posted April 16, 2016 Author Posted April 16, 2016 (edited) She said she would let you know, so now you wait. If she texts you then fine, you get the green light. If she doesn't , then just forget her. She blew you off. Don't text her again- you will come off as a clingy beta boy, begging for her affection. Sometimes, the best course of action is to do nothing, and that is where you are now. So,inaction is the best course of action right? I know,no point in pursuing her more at this point.I am just trying to figure out how good my chances are with this girl to determine if I should keep waiting until she reaches out again or start looking for something else. Edited April 16, 2016 by Jim nine three Quoting what my answer was based upon
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