I have a longterm boyfriend but have a crush on a boy who has girlfriend.............

[RANDOMGIRL1994]

I have been with my boyfriend since I'm 18 and now I'm 22, we got more like best friends u know?

we use to fight a lot though, and it sucks... and he is also my first boyfriend in life! (he is 22 too)

I never had feelings for anyone else in our entire relationship, but I always caught him talking with some other girls, and etc... I never even looked to another guy or thought of. but now........

we moved together to another country to study and work, and to have a life together, after a whole hard story, because my mom wouldn't let me go out with him, and always used to hold me back at home :/ and I feel so so so stupid, because I can't stop thinking of my boss's son!!!!!! help.

at first I hated this guy with all my stenghts, but then I started to like his annoying ways, hahah.

one day when I went to my job with my bf to talk with my boss, he was there, and

he asked: are u siblings, or friends?

and my bf answered: I'm her boyfriend.

(and after his answer the boss's son made a ~surprise face~ I thought: weird.

and after I realized my bf was kinda jealous of him, I started to wonder WHY! later on this same day, at the parking of the place where I work, our car was parked close to the BOSS'S SON CAR, and when he got in the car, idk why in the world, but my boyfriend kissed me, and I really don't know whyyy, and after that when we was going out of the parking, the boss's son stopped right next to us and stared at me. SINCE THIS DAY I started to think about him, bc I thought this whole situation was kinda crazy.

Since there everytime he goes to work I get happy and excited and idk why, I started to think about him when I'm kissing my bf and I hate me for that, I can't stop thinking of him and I feel very bad! specially bc I just found out he has a girlfriend, so the things got harder... I would never cheat on my boyfriend, u know, I even tried to break up with him because I am having feelings for someone and I feel blamed, but he didnt let me do this, and of course I didnt say the real reason of breaking up with him :/

I'm going crazy bc I really love my bf, and we are great friends, but I don't wanna mess with his life, he doesnt deserve it.

on the other hand, I have this guy who I barely know, and is 19, but I think is really cute and misterious, I keep thinking about him, and about getting to know him better, but I think he hates me sometimes, and sometimes I wonder if he have feelings for me too, but he has a girlfriend...... oh man, I am so dumb..... :/ what do u think about this situation?

[BeholdtheMan]

I think you skipped writing classes

[smudge21]

Look up GIGS (grass is greener syndrome) as that's what you have here. Your boyfriend is safe, secure and you know him so well. The other guy is the mystery, the challenge, the unknown. You're attracted to the difference, the change, not so much the person. You're still so very young and have been with one person for many years. No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but you seriously do have to think about all this.

[RANDOMGIRL1994]

Thank you so much for your answer, it means a lot

[RANDOMGIRL1994]

Sorry, I taught myself English, I know I have a lot to learn yet

[Zippy2000]

If hes your first boyfriend then make him your last.

 

You dont need to look around. You dont need to start over with someone only for it to fall apart and you to go back to your boyfriend.

 

Do you want that history? Do you want that kind of past?

 

No!Start looking on focussing on your current relationship to find out whast missing and why you`re looking for another man.

 

I find it odd, and I ve seen this time and time again..........when a woman dislikes a man. Somehow, given time she seems to fall for him!

 

Now, Im not the most atttractive man ever but it gives me hope if I persist with a girl. Hopefully she will chnage her mind.

[Maxtor]

This is why I have trust issues.

[Buddhist]

Hormones and you like the attention you're getting from both. It's called being young and silly. We were all there once. :roll eyes:

 

FYI - I threw away a perfectly good relationship when I was young and stupid and never found anyone who was as good a match as that boyfriend, again.

[Zippy2000]

Hormones and you like the attention you're getting from both. It's called being young and silly. We were all there once. :roll eyes:

 

FYI - I threw away a perfectly good relationship when I was young and stupid and never found anyone who was as good a match as that boyfriend, again.

 

Me, too. Well, okay I didnt throw away a relationship. I just didnt pay enough attention to her and she left. That was back in 2005.

 

I havent found anyone who matches what I lost.

 

You dont know what you have until you lost it.

[d0nnivain]

I think you are 22. I think you were repressed by your parents (not that parents are bad for wanting to shelter & protect their kids). Now you are out in the big wide world & lo & behold you discovered that there are multiple options. It's not just GIGs but it is a part of the maturation process -- a desire to explore & find out what's out there.

 

 

While your Boss's 19 year old son who has a GF is a very bad choice for a current BF, the fact that your eye's are starting to roam says that your present relationship is running it's course. It happens. What you wanted as a sheltered 18 year old child does not have to be what you want as a woman who is starting to come into her own.

 

 

Be gentle when you end things with your BF. Do end them before you move on to the next guy. While he has a GF stay away from the boss's son.

[truth_seeker]

the fact that your eye's are starting to roam says that your present relationship is running it's course. It happens.

 

Correct! It's one thing to find another person attractive in passing... but another to stop what you're doing and think about them.

 

Break up with the boyfriend. You're not into him anymore.