40daysforthen253 Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Seeking a routine. For a Tinder date, a stranger, someone I know etc. How are the following? (1) "Lets get drinks" - Meet. at 9 pm. Walk with her to bar or ice cream. Potentially, "Lets go home to play Uno" Uber home. Play Uno, movie, or stargazing. (2) "Get coffee with me after work" - Meet at at 6 pm. Walk with her to coffee shop. Walk to park. Potentially Uber home to play Uno. (3) Go to an interesting event together (4) Explore a new area. (5) if we're far apart, lets meet in (middle city) and find a bar. then possibly uber to one of our cities to continue date Thnx
Jabron1 Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 First date, yeah? I go with option 2. Go for coffee, and chat. Then switch to pub, up the flirting considerably, and go for kiss. Forget about going home to 'play uno'. There is such a thing as pushing too far and too fast. Try that on date 2 or 3 instead. Unless it's really on... 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 (edited) What's with the Uno obsession? Haha It's a great game and everything but meeting a woman for drinks and inviting her back to your place to play Uno sounds like the lamest attempt at a one night stand I've ever heard of. The same thing with the coffee meet up for Uno back at your place after. Here's an idea for an "Uno date" combining a few elements that you mentioned. Meet at an ice cream place and get it to go. Take it somewhere outside where you can stargaze for a night picnic. Then you enjoy the ice cream under the stars over a game of Uno. Now something like that is creative and a bit romantic. But involving your place isn't. Edited April 15, 2016 by fitnessfan365
Jabron1 Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 (3) Go to an interesting event together Couples stuff. Probably wouldn't do this very early on. (4) Explore a new area. More couples stuff. I prefer to do stuff like this after I get to know someone. (5) if we're far apart, lets meet in (middle city) and find a bar. then possibly uber to one of our cities to continue date I have a few regular places that I like to go to in a few of the towns around where I live. That way, there's no pissing around on the date, and I know what I'm doing. Check out some coffee shops and pubs. Keep in mind the places where you liked the vibe. You'll get a routine easily enough. What's with the Uno obsession? I think we both know he isn't looking for a new friend to play boardgames with . But yeah, it comes across as a bit weird. Maybe a geeky girl will find it cute or something. We all have our own ways of doing things. There's a restaurant near my house, and I invite girls there for a 2nd or 3rd date. Afterwards, we 'coincidentally' walk past my place There are other ways, but this is the easiest. Takes the least guts
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Posted April 15, 2016 Then you enjoy the ice cream under the stars over a game of Uno. haven't laughed so hard in a while. Excellent post. Thanks
clia Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Seeking a routine. For a Tinder date, a stranger, someone I know etc. How are the following? (1) "Lets get drinks" - Meet. at 9 pm. Walk with her to bar or ice cream. Potentially, "Lets go home to play Uno" Uber home. Play Uno, movie, or stargazing. Meeting at 9 p.m. is too late, in my opinion. If it's a work night, it's too late because I have to get up early. If it's not a work night, it's just an awkward time, in my opinion, because it basically kills my entire night just to meet you for a later drink. (I.e., can't meet friends for dinner at 7 or 8, so I'm stuck doing dinner on my own around the house until 9. Eh. Also seems like a blatant ploy to avoid buying dinner.) (2) "Get coffee with me after work" - Meet at at 6 pm. Walk with her to coffee shop. Walk to park. Potentially Uber home to play Uno. I personally don't want coffee after work. I want a drink! If you meet at 6, you need to plan for either a shorter date (like an hour) or that you will get food at some point. 7-8 is basically dinner time for most people who are getting off work by 5 or 6. You can do coffee at 2ish on Saturday or Sunday. (3) Go to an interesting event together Possibly for a third or later date. (4) Explore a new area. Ok, maybe, for a second or later date. I feel like it could be awkward with a guy I don't know. (5) if we're far apart, lets meet in (middle city) and find a bar. then possibly uber to one of our cities to continue date Ok. But I wouldn't really be interested in dating someone far away.
DreamP Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 All my girl friends who are online dating, use the first meetup to just check out the person. So they only do coffee dates. Meet for coffee or happy hour with no plans afterwards. All during the day, not evening. That's not to say if it goes really well, they wouldn't mind extending the date to a stroll in the park and ice-cream. But then again, tinder is more of a hookup app. Don't overthink the romantic date stuff. More of go with the flow.
Mrin Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 #2 for an early date #1 (sans the Uno at your place) for a late date Keep it simple and non-committal.
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 The minute you ask a woman home on an early date is the exact minute she will conclude that you are only trying to get her to have sex with you. Forgo the at home activities until you have several public dates under your belt or until she invites you to her place. 9 pm is a bit late for a 1st date with drinks. Again it seems like you only want a booty call. Can you do 7 p.m. instead? If you can't because you don't get off work until 8 make sure to share that tid bit with her. What's with the Uber? Do you not drive? If you are just being responsible because you don't drive after drinking fine, but you should be able to drive after ice cream. Save the interesting event for a 2nd date. Although somebody her on LS took a woman to a local farmer's market for a 1st date, then got coffee & pastry & sat nearby to talk. I thought that was very creative & safe, broad daylight & all.
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted April 17, 2016 Author Posted April 17, 2016 I personally don't want coffee after work. I want a drink! Very helpful. Thanks
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted April 17, 2016 Author Posted April 17, 2016 tinder is more of a hookup app. Don't overthink the romantic date stuff. More of go with the flow. Can you elaborate on the expectation for tinder? Thanks
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted April 17, 2016 Author Posted April 17, 2016 What's with the Uber? Do you not drive? If you are just being responsible because you don't drive after drinking fine, but you should be able to drive after ice cream. Save the interesting event for a 2nd date. Although somebody her on LS took a woman to a local farmer's market for a 1st date, then got coffee & pastry & sat nearby to talk. I thought that was very creative & safe, broad daylight & all. All very helpful. Uber because I'm in a city without a car. Love the Farmer's Market idea.
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