could i take months for a relationship to develop?

[krisbryant]

I'm really bad at this stuff to be honest. I have seen where people get in relationships quickly but others took awhile to develop. Even seeing other people during the time they were getting to know each other and going on dates.

 

Is it possible you could be talking/going on dates for months before a relationship ends up developing?

[Ami1uwant]

Yes...time can vary with relationship development.

 

Usually ones that take longer to develop usually are because someone isn't ready to date ( too soon from break up) or there are complications ( like you two work together)

 

Also if you are older like 35+ snd after a long Ter relationship/marriage it becomes hard to tell most of the time if someone is nice or really interested.

[krisbryant]

Yes...time can vary with relationship development.

 

Usually ones that take longer to develop usually are because someone isn't ready to date ( too soon from break up) or there are complications ( like you two work together)

 

Also if you are older like 35+ snd after a long Ter relationship/marriage it becomes hard to tell most of the time if someone is nice or really interested.

 

i guess its bette rto take your time?

[Zippy2000]

It really depends if how the couple met.

 

Its online on a dating site then it`ll develop faster but lets say if you met at work or from a friend It will take longer as one person my develop feeling at a different rate.

 

You have to be clear what your intentions are when you first meet. If you met as friend and coninue for months or years.........you get put into the friend zone.

 

The main thing is to take your time and try not to ruch something while things can develop natuarally.

[Larryville]

I have seen where people get in relationships quickly but others took awhile to develop. Even seeing other people during the time they were getting to know each other and going on dates.

 

Is it possible you could be talking/going on dates for months before a relationship ends up developing?

 

It really depends if how the couple met.

 

Its online on a dating site then it`ll develop faster but lets say if you met at work or from a friend It will take longer as one person my develop feeling at a different rate.

 

You have to be clear what your intentions are when you first meet

 

Timely thread for me.

 

Was “dating” (HATE THAT WORD) someone we like each other, attracted to each other and all that stuff but she is dealing with an issue where she is going to need to be significantly more involved in the lives (including numerous weekends) with grandchildren.

While I don’t mind being patient, I don’t know if I want to be in this abbreviated relationship. I was excited at first because she was one of a few women (I’m talking 40 plus age range) who are not still raising kids, massive family obligations ect. She does try to be flexible, we live 45 min apart… well anyway.

 

Was contacted by another woman just yesterday, much younger than the previous, NO KIDS, no family issues.

 

We talked on the phone last night (3.5 hours) and had one of the most surprising and engaging phone calls I have had with an individual in some time.

She invited me to a Comedy Show Saturday, but I suggested we meet before (this evening)

 

My point as to this thread, what she had in her profile, the first few on site email messages, and that phone call has me very intrigued just by what she articulated to me and her experience with men she experienced that had the same issues I experienced.

 

He pics are attractive, she is a successful, smart woman if she is anything in person as she was via the phone, would be a significant step towards building a possible relationship “faster” than anything I have experienced in OLD.

 

Situations and circumstances are what stunt the growth of relationships, but I "seemingly" find the right person at the right time.

 

So this quote:

It really depends if how the couple met.

 

AND timing affects the quickness of relationship development.

[preraph]

It really depends if how the couple met.

 

Its online on a dating site then it`ll develop faster but lets say if you met at work or from a friend It will take longer as one person my develop feeling at a different rate.

 

You have to be clear what your intentions are when you first meet. If you met as friend and coninue for months or years.........you get put into the friend zone.

 

The main thing is to take your time and try not to ruch something while things can develop natuarally.

 

^ This. It sounds to me like you've been dating, and the other person has just been hanging out as friends. Probably not a thing you can do about it at this point but move on and not make the same mistake again. You MUST be up front in a flirty way so no one can mistake your intentions. It's a turnoff to just SAY you're interested in someone, much like it is to be asked if you can kiss someone. It's best just to be flirty and touchy and see how far you get. And then give up if they're not interested that way.