Bliss09 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 My girlfriend and I were together almost 2 years. I am 25, and she is 23 (Both female). Our relationship was truly amazing, we rarely argued and got along great. About a year in, we decided to move in together as my lease was expiring. About 4 months ago, things really started to go down hill. I was working full time in my new career, and she was struggling to finish school. I attributed most of our annoyance on stress, as she still stated she loved me very much, but was frustrated with school. She recently (2 months ago) made a new friend at the resturaunt she works at on weekends. She became texting this friend constantly, and talking to regularly. I expressed to ger my concern, as I felt the 24/7 texting was excessive. She told me that she was enjoying having a friend who wasn't me, and I agreed. Flash forward to this week, and I'm devastated. This past Friday, she told me she doesn't want to be with me. She explained I force communication, and she just no longer feels how she once did. I asked her if we could try and rekindle the relationship before abandoning it, and she agreed. Two days ago, I did catch her in a lie about where she was, unintentionally. She became irate, and screamed at me and told me she doesn't want to try anyone, and I need to move out. I love this girl more than anything. I planned on proposing this summer in fact. We talked of a family, the future, and how happy we were regularly. This all just came out of nowhere. She attributes this change to wanting to be 23, and not having to answer to anyone. She explained I do not like to go to the club on the weekend, and that is what she wants to do. I admit, I have strongly grown out of drinking. I enjoy going to places on the weekend, and Spending time together, however it didn't seem to be enough because we were not out getting hammered. I feel like I will never find anyone again. Not only is my heart broken, but now I also have to find another place to live. I have no family here, and as in most relationships, my friendships suffered because of it. I am completely alone, and completely lost. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Will it get better?
Jasum Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 My situation was fairly similar to yours , (its still on the front page called " What do I do now?" I can tell you for sure , it does get better . And chances are her saying " She doesn't wanna try anymore " and changing randomly may attribute to the fact she is catching mad feelings for that person she texts non stop . What'd I'd say is let her run her course and if she realizes her mistake let her come back (if you choose) but make her work for it . Hell she could be getting GIG syndrome . I can't give any answers aside from she is being hasty and stupid , but when you love someone who likes making dumb choice ; it ant excatly easy . Block her , On everything , If she really wants to talk to you she needs to do it in person . Texts are way to easy and lack of hassal , dont make ANY contact with her it will torment you I promise . Things will get better , your gonna be on a roller coaster for a bit , but things WILL get better . Stay strong - Jasum
Jasum Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 It may be a better option to find a different love interest all together . Try getting out a little more , go to festivals , get togethers , parades . It doesnt necessarily have to be partying or drinking for you to find someone you love :cool: Good Luck -Jasum
basil67 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Yes it will get better. The two of you have grown to be people who are no longer compatible. As much as it's a very hurtful process, this is also very normal at your ages. We change sooo much in our late teens - mid 20's. When you've taken some time to grieve this, how about getting out and meeting new friends? Look for some local meetups of people who enjoy the same things you do.
LD1990 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Overall, it will get better day by day, but it can be a slow process that makes you wonder if you're making progress. It's like when you decide to improve your diet and exercise more - you see your body every day, so it can be hard to notice little improvements. But every so often, you notice how far you've come, and then one day you realize that you've improved so much from when you started. I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm 25 and my 22 year old ex-girlfriend left after meeting someone new in class (although we had many other issues that probably contributed more to the breakup). We also lived together for awhile and were together almost 2 years, so I know how hard it is in the beginning. It has been over 2 months now and I'm worlds away from where I was in those first couple weeks. Stay strong and set goals for yourself, things you want to achieve. They help you stay on track and stay positive about the direction where your life is going.
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