Did he just break up with me after I had broken up with him???

[Jacque70]

Hi all,

I'm so upset right now. I've been in a jo jo relationship for the last couple months. I thought I was doing the right thing and broke up with a guy who was giving me mixed messages, talking about marriage one minute then acting like he wanted to be far away from me the next. I broke up, he came back claiming he made a mistake. He said he was scared and wanted to try again. I really liked him and believed him and basically he did this a few times.

 

Finally I said it was over last Saturday. By Tuesday he was at my door wanting to talk, telling me he missed me, etc. I told him I had lost his trust already and that it would be so difficult for me to get it back. He even asked me to go to his birthday party on Sunday. I said no. And he left a note on my car the next morning and said he wanted to call that afternoon. He called late, left a message that he would call yesterday. He didn't. Today he waited for me after work (we work in the same building) to ask if he could call me that afternoon. I was with a friend so I said fine. He called, but I had already realized I needed to tell him to stop contacting me. I didn't answer the phone and he left a message saying he was sorry for all the trauma he caused me and that despite all of that he thought I was a good person. He said he was too messed up and that it was probably too late because how could I trust him, yada yada... I'm completely in shock. I thought I broke up with him! Why did he call? Did he just want to get the last word in? I went from being comfortable with the decision I made to very hurt and mad again. Any thoughts? I'm just so upset! Thanks.

[smile95]

i think that he just wanted the last word. I am wondering if that is why I am so upset too. I wanted to end it and then he did and now I want him back. I think at least you should feel confident that you did end it first and it is clear that he wanted to see that he could win you back(he did) and then he wanted the control.