Why Would My Ex Choose To Be With A Sorority Party Girl Over Me?

[Zahara]

1. Cheated on you

2. Dumped you

3. Came back and strung you along

4. Then admitted to using you

5. Was cheating on his girlfriend with you

 

And you're questioning his motives? Wondering if this assclown misses you? Is this the best you think you can do for yourself?

[karen17]

Im just trying to figure out what he meant by unblocking me. any ideas?

[Zahara]

Im just trying to figure out what he meant by unblocking me. any ideas?

 

He's hoping you'll bite the bait. Hoping to get the door open to communication. Hoping he can rope his doormat in again for some sex. Probably seeking out available options.

 

This idiot should have been blocked and removed from your life a long time ago and you should desire more for yourself instead of investing your emotions in what and why he's doing the things he does.

Edited May 22, 2016 by Zahara

[PrettyEmily77]

does this mean he still thinks about me/ he misses me? or what im so confused why he unblocked me after telling me to get out of his life...

 

No. It means he knows he can play you like a violin and you'll go running back to him given half the chance.

 

For your own sanity and self-esteem, keep away from more inevitable heartache.

[gimlynick]

You don't even have to question what he is thinking.

He's a ****tard.

 

Ban him completely out of your life and more soon then later you will find happiness again.

 

Good luck

[d0nnivain]

Him unblocking you means YOU are not over him. If you were, you would still have him blocked and you would not know if he unblocked you. More importantly you wouldn't care.

 

 

He's a cheating liar. What he does next should be of no interest to you.

[BC1980]

thanks a lot for the advice, I really appreciate it. I guess I was just hoping someday he would realize he messed up by letting me go and come back. like once he's left his party days behind and is looking to settle down. he was once such a good guy and so sweet and caring towards me. is there no chance of this happening?

 

So you're saying you still want to be with a guy who admitted he used you for sex while he was dating another woman. And then you said he cheated on you when he was with you right? Even if there was a chance of him coming back to you, why would you want that? Seriously, as yourself why you feel that is what you deserve. He might have been nice and caring towards you at one time, but that is not enough to make amends for what has happened since. I don't think it matters how nice he was to you before because what has transpired since then, there is no coming back from that in my eyes. You feel differently, but I'd really think long and hard about why you feel differently.

 

And since you asked, there is a chance he would come back. There is always a chance, and we don't know the future. But if he did want you back, I have serious doubts it would stable. He'd probably just want you back if the other girl dumped him, and he would want you for sex and a warm body. He knows you are willing to accept the bare minimum to stay in his life. You have shown him that you will lower yourself to FWB to keep him around, so he has lost all respect for you at this point. He sees you as a doormat he can use and walk all over. He calls, and you come running. You may not see it, but that is the picture you have painted for him.

 

Your only hope is to go NC and never speak to him again. You are a year out from your breakup, and you still haven't gone NC, which includes social media. You are living in the past.

Edited May 22, 2016 by BC1980

[basil67]

thank you for responding. I guess I was wishing someday, once he's left his party days behind and is looking to settle down, he will realize he messed up by letting me go and come back. he used to be so sweet and caring and was such a good guy. is there no chance of this happening?

 

It's unlikely.

 

The most likely outcome is that he will eventually end things with her and move on to someone new and continue to date a number of people over the next 10 or so years. And you will also date a number of people until you find your Mr Right. Both of you will eventually just look back on each other as 'someone I used to know'.

 

Those horrible things he said about using you. I could be wrong, but these sound like the kind of words someone could say if they are feeling cornered and need to force some space. By any chance, were you pushing him for answers...angry...or begging prior to him saying this? Thing is, it actually may not be true. That said, it's a vile reaction and you're better off away from him.

[LD1990]

Him unblocking you means YOU are not over him. If you were, you would still have him blocked and you would not know if he unblocked you.

 

This really depends on the site/app. If someone blocks you on Facebook, for example, you're not going to be able to find them anymore, meaning you can't block them unless they unblock you first.

 

Of course, now that he has unblocked her is the perfect opportunity to block his ass, because a cheater is a cheater.

[BC1980]

Im just trying to figure out what he meant by unblocking me. any ideas?

 

I'd say he probably wants to hit you up for sex in the near future. Given his past behavior, that would be my first guess. He might hope you have cooled off emotionally, so he can have sex with you without you expecting more. Otherwise, I'd say sheer curiosity. We've all looked up exes on social media or googled an ex out of curiosity.

[Blanco]

Social media is just the worst.

 

Without it, I think a lot of us would move on and heal so much faster. Instead, we allow things such as what our ex comments on, likes, does, or doesn't do on social media to have way more meaning and importance than those actions deserve.

 

I'll agree with others in saying that you should block him so that him having you blocked or unblocked is immaterial.

[preraph]

With men it's rarely about choosing one woman over another. It's usually more about getting as many women and types of women as possible. I understand your pain. One of the things that used to irk me the most was some of the old goats a man of mine would date after or during him dating me. But they don't think of it like that. They would love to date them all at once, but failing that, they would at least like to sleep with a lot of women. And there are guys who think they're falling for them too, in the heat of the moment, but that is rarely the case.