Lillyba26 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Is it true that men don't friend zone and that on some level they have an interest in their female friends?
CarrieT Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I'm a woman with lots of male friends who - I know for a fact - have no romantic inclinations towards me, so I believe your premise to be faulty. 1
smudge21 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 No. I've friend zoned plenty and never had an interest to take it further with them. Sometimes you just meet people who you don't feel it with, but they're great company. There's always a bit of rude banter here and there, but it never gets beyond a joke.
Author Lillyba26 Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 I'm a woman with lots of male friends who - I know for a fact - have no romantic inclinations towards me, so I believe your premise to be faulty. It's not my premise. I was just asking
GoodOnPaper Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I suspect that there is a numbers correlation - the guys who admit to friendzoning women will tend to be ones who attract a lot of women in the first place. When you have the numbers working for you, you can afford to separate friendship and romantic feelings. I happen to be guy who considers friendship and romantic feelings to be on the same spectrum. If I develop a deep 1-on-1 friendship with a woman, I am going to start falling for her, end-of-story. Maybe this is because I'm an introvert, maybe it's because I always had a very difficult time attracting women. Nevertheless, my experience has been that many women are adept at separating friendship and romantic feelings much like many men are adept at separating sex and love. 5
stillafool Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Is it true that men don't friend zone and that on some level they have an interest in their female friends? I've had plenty of male friends and it was strictly platonic. So I'd say yes just like men, women can get friend zoned. Especially if you are platonic friends first. Most guys have a romantic interest in a woman first and then it moves on to a relationship.
smudge21 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 GoodonPaper (or Clive Bixby) has some interesting points. I don't personally have a lot of females around me though and never really have. But there's just been times that I've met someone and although we've clicked perfectly, it's never felt like anything more than a friendship. No real reason to it. They've been attractive, their personalities are perfect for me, I've been available as have they... but for whatever reason, it's been friends only. Yet there's been other girls who could be almost exactly the same in every way and I've fallen for them. I reckon as much as girls can "not feel it" for a guy and therefore only ever see them as a friend, it can quite easily be the same for guys.
Larryville Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Is it true that men don't friend zone and that on some level they have an interest in their female friends? I happen to be guy who considers friendship and romantic feelings to be on the same spectrum. If I develop a deep 1-on-1 friendship with a woman, I am going to start falling for her, end-of-story. GOP’s quote is realistic. However this no doubt will be another “depends on your definition” Threads. People today have a watered down version of what a true friend really is. Good, relationships and good marriages key foundation is “trust” and “friendship” someone who accepts you completely and without reservation. Let me be blunt and as mean as this may sound if a woman is unattractive, sure a guy can or will move her to this “friend zone” because he has NO sexual interest. The truth is that men and women cannot be "just friends"... unless both are horribly unattractive.... Why GOP’s quote is so dead on. Video -
LydiaLong Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I'm not really sure what 'friendzone' means, but I'm assuming it has to do with male/female friendship. I have a few male friends, mostly colleagues that I worked with. I don't do things with them. We may attend the same get-togethers, but I wouldn't call one and say, 'let's have lunch' the way I would with my female friends.
SammySammy Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 No, that's not true. I have friends who have been romantically interested in me who I will never see as anything other than a friend.
SwordofFlame Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I suspect that there is a numbers correlation - the guys who admit to friendzoning women will tend to be ones who attract a lot of women in the first place. When you have the numbers working for you, you can afford to separate friendship and romantic feelings. I happen to be guy who considers friendship and romantic feelings to be on the same spectrum. If I develop a deep 1-on-1 friendship with a woman, I am going to start falling for her, end-of-story. Maybe this is because I'm an introvert, maybe it's because I always had a very difficult time attracting women. Nevertheless, my experience has been that many women are adept at separating friendship and romantic feelings much like many men are adept at separating sex and love. I have to agree here. If a woman is a good friend and I find her sexually attractive, I will fall for her.
Erik30 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 (edited) No, men also friendzone girls. A guy can be friends with a girl who he's not attracted to at all. If that's the case, nothing will ever happen between them. Your question suggests guys always have at least some interest in all of their female friends, which isn't true. They're are exceptions off course, like he could be hung up on some other girl but still think his female friend is kind off cute , or one of them is in a relationship. Of if they start out as friends because he hasn't made a move Edited April 14, 2016 by Erik30
Author Lillyba26 Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 I wasn't suggesting anything. I'm just asking.
Shanex Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I friendzone the women I'm not interested in regardless of the reason. We wouldn't make a good couple, she's too old or just unattractive. Things like that make I can friendzone a woman.
TheBathWater Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Is it true that men don't friend zone and that on some level they have an interest in their female friends? For the most part, it is true we don't friend zone. There are always exceptions to anything. Maybe what is more common though, in my experience, is when a woman thinks she is my friend and tries to be in my life but I have zero interest and keep her at a distance, but she is too hopeful to get the hint and so thinks she is my 'friend' and that I must be interested and keeps trying. It's annoying. Lol.
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