Casio167 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Am I going crazy here?! Been with my partner a year and a half. Currently completing an extremely demanding degree which means rarely any weekends off, and absolutely no city breaks or short holidays during the year...for the last four years, so I'm going crazy. I live in a country with bad weather, raining or grey a lot of the time, so I miss the sun, miss adventure and have been looking forward to doing a lovely city break away to somewhere with my partner since we got together! And i thought he was the same! We've been talking about it for months the last while, wondering where we'll go. Was texting him this evening and mentioned Barcelona. And he brings up a town two hours from where we live that my parents have a house in, suggesting we go there. He said he can afford to go away because I asked him, but it was just a suggestion...that is absolutely no effort on his part...and costs him no money....I'm the only one that drives so I'd be driving us down and back too. I am really upset about this-that he would even suggest it as an alternative! Last year he was going to visit me in amsterdam for a weekend and changed his mind, going to a stag do instead. Lads....am I going crazy here or is this a slap in the face? Seems like minimal effort to me and cheap as hell. Like...im not suggesting the ritz, im happy with staying in a hostel or whatever!
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Is this a pattern with him? I mean, does he constantly bail on you, expect you to pay most of the time and/or sit back and let you make all the plans? If not, then I'm not sure this one isolated incident is worth over reacting. I think the way you're feeling has more to do with the level of stress in your life right now than what your boyfriend is or isn't doing. Be careful not to blow something out of proportion. My other thought is why not discuss your feelings with him rather than venting on here? If you want to go to Barcelona so badly then tell him that's where you want to go and sort it out together. You said yourself it wasn't that he wouldn't take you, he just suggested something else that didn't suit your fancy.
scooby-philly Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Is this a pattern with him? I mean, does he constantly bail on you, expect you to pay most of the time and/or sit back and let you make all the plans? If not, then I'm not sure this one isolated incident is worth over reacting. I think the way you're feeling has more to do with the level of stress in your life right now than what your boyfriend is or isn't doing. Be careful not to blow something out of proportion. My other thought is why not discuss your feelings with him rather than venting on here? If you want to go to Barcelona so badly then tell him that's where you want to go and sort it out together. You said yourself it wasn't that he wouldn't take you, he just suggested something else that didn't suit your fancy. Agreed on both counts. 1. Never make a major life decision while emotional. That's good advice career, relationship, family, friend, etc. wise 2. This is a great place for getting feedback, different perspectives, advice when you're lost. But to the point above, there's a time when you got to turn to action. And perhaps he's just being considerate of you - maybe he wants to make sure you can relax and doesn't want to stress you out more.
Recommended Posts