Author JustAnotherLostLove Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 Either way, you have to man up (for lack of a better term) and do the heavy lifting yourself. Sure it's not easy, but most things worth doing aren't easy. I agree, and I think I already knew that. I just needed confirmation, ya know? 1
Nickr3023 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 The more you realize this is all completely mind over matter is the day it becomes easier. It's as simple as you decide to make it be. I decided enough was enough, I hit rock bottom. Finally I went to the doctors, started antidepressants, went to weekly counseling, starting thinking positively. And finally everything snapped into place and everything is crystal clear. No more stress, anxiety, depression. I feel like I never have before. So you will all recover when you decide that you've had enough. 1
keiji Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Also, you'd be sending the message "I'm still not over you". And you don't want that, do you? Block her and use all your willpower to never undo that. I did it and have maintained it, and believe me, I usually have zero willpower. ZERO. If I can, you can too. 2
Haydn Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Block. Some of us didn`t when we were going through the same. Once you do, you will feel a little bit better. Good luck 1
BikerAccnt Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 If blocking makes it easier for you then you need to do it. I just broke up with my GF of 2 years earlier this week and the first thing I did was un-friend her. I didn't block her, for me I don't see the need. I don't hate her and if she wants to browse my profile, she's welcome to it. I know myself, I won't look at hers. At least not for a good long time. I don't like laying down on beds of nails Blocking her, for me, would indicate that I felt something more akin to anger or hatred over the breakup and completely and irrevocably want her out of my life. That's not necessarily true. After some considerable time, it may be possible for us to be friends. Considerable time. On the other hand, I have a feeling she turned around and blocked me. I noticed last night that she isn't showing up in a mutual group we both belonged to. That could mean she either left the group, or blocked me. I didn't go to her profile to find out. That's her choice..and as I said, I don't like purposefully hurting myself. Good luck.
BC1980 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I also think that years from now, you will probably be embarrassed if you ask her to block you. That is like telling her that you can't stop stalking her FB page, which is creepy for anyone to hear. I'm not saying you are stalking her page, but she will likely take it that way. Think about how it would make you feel if she thought that of you.
Author JustAnotherLostLove Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 The more you realize this is all completely mind over matter is the day it becomes easier. It's as simple as you decide to make it be. I decided enough was enough, I hit rock bottom. Finally I went to the doctors, started antidepressants, went to weekly counseling, starting thinking positively. And finally everything snapped into place and everything is crystal clear. No more stress, anxiety, depression. I feel like I never have before. So you will all recover when you decide that you've had enough. My doctor's been actively trying to put me on antidepressants because of this. I've been declining. Guess the idea of it felt like some kind of defeat, but maybe it isn't.
Jason9 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 My advice is if you break up on bad terms to the point where being friends is impossible, you should block your ex. Im my case with my recent ex it was bad terms. I felt I lost when she cheated on me, so it keeps me determined not to contact her again or unblock her on FB, because I dont wanna be a loser for the second time.
Author JustAnotherLostLove Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 (edited) My advice is if you break up on bad terms to the point where being friends is impossible, you should block your ex. Im my case with my recent ex it was bad terms. I felt I lost when she cheated on me, so it keeps me determined not to contact her again or unblock her on FB, because I dont wanna be a loser for the second time. We didn't break up on bad terms at all. I speak for myself, when I say that I just got exhausted. I had her, a career, and my emotionally unstable grandmother to take care of. I was just out of gas, and because of that, I let us die. It's fair to say that most of it was my fault. I've decided that it's my job to remove her now. I just simply wasn't thinking straight when I posted this initially, and I knew that, which is why I asked. But again, I also don't trust my self to not check up on her from time to time. Which is why I saw logic in asking her to block me, cause there'd be no way to see her anymore. But I know now, that it's my obligation to be strong enough to not look back. Edited April 14, 2016 by JustAnotherLostLove 1
CDJ Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 I asked my ex and and the 'other guy' to block me on Instagram because the temptation to check how things between them were progressing was too much to resist. But it was utterly pointless, because I learned soon after that as she has a public profile I could just check her photos via a web browser. So, not only did I achieve absolutely nothing, but I made her see that I was weak and embarrassed myself; and I removed any chance of her ever seeing me moving on with my life (which is petty, I know). She did a horrible thing to me but I wish I'd handled myself better afterwards, and that Instagram thing is what I regret the most. Don't do it. Block her and do whatever you can to stop yourself checking up on her!
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