Drunken call from ex

[Tierney63]

Hi all, new to this forum and thought I'd share what just happened about an hour ago.

 

Now before anyone asks, I have blocked her from everything, social media, number, iMessage etc. Everything. I done it on Monday after I reached a point of starting to move on and going completely NC I blocked her as I felt the time was right and I was ready to do it. Yes at the start I really wanted her back and done all the usual things like begging etc but nothing. The first 2 months have been hard but the past two weeks I have really started to see things better and realise that she wasn't the one. I'm not fully there but you're bound to miss someone you spent 2.5 years together with.

 

Anyway to my original title, I got a call from a number tonight that I didn't know so I phoned it back, turned out to be one of her new pals she is with now, I hung up and I know right then I should have blocked that number but we all make mistakes! She texted saying its me answer. So I answered and she was drunk, shouting about me wanting my things back and how she needs to know when I'm coming so she isn't in. She then was asking who's number is this as I got a new number but I told her it doesn't matter who's number it is and I'm done. This is where it got funny, she said 'you're done yeah just like 2 years bye I'm done' (in reference to something stupid I said that I didn't mean that started this whole thing) Then she thought she would be mean and try and annoy me by saying 'btw it's been 4 months not 2' then hung up. This was in reference to how long we have been split up,now I know this isn't true and I know her aim was to annoy me and make me feel like sh*t.

 

Now the things that she said would have annoyed me a couple of weeks ago but I've came a long way and I'm now strong enough not to rise or bite to anything that I know isn't true and is designed to hurt me. All I got from the call was that she is still annoyed about things I said and that it has only further helped me to move on somehow. Like I said I completely blocked her from everything this week and she still tried to contact me. That number is now blocked anyway!

 

I don't regret answering the phone as its allowed me to see how far I have came and that I am strong enough to laugh it off. NC is definitely the way forward, helped me massively. I'm going to leave you with a quote that has helped me during my healing.

 

'When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you'

[Weathersf1]

 

 

'When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you'

 

You sir, are a wise man.

[Tierney63]

It has helped me a lot! Love yourself and don't harbour any hatred and no matter what anybody says to you, you'll be able to brush it off. It's true when people say you learn a lot about someone at the end of the relationship than you do during it. It applies to my situation so much.