thathurts Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Broke up with her, and begged her to come back after a month. She did not, and recently i realized that she is with her older ex. They had 2 years relationship and we had 2.5 years realtionship and she was ready to marry with me. One week after we broke up, she starts dating with her older ex. and like 10 days she tried LC with me, i pushed so hard and she said ok you need to learn everything to forget about me. Saying that everything happened so fast with him. Does it mean i was just somebody to forget her ex? If i was how come she was with me 2.5 years? I am so confused.
SexKitten Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 it didn't happen "that fast." she's known him for years. it just revived somehow.
miss-gonewest Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 I'm confused too! I read here so often that people date, and then go back to the previous ex before the current ex... what? Do you all live on an island? Are there only 10 people in your town? Sorry to be funny, but while I am friendly with ex's (ie. I'd shout them a drink if I ran into them at the pub) I don't keep in touch with them. I move on, they move on and that's it. Sometimes I really wish I could run into an ex just for fun, but I just don't see them. Ever. Not even when I could guess they'd be somewhere.... Was your gf in contact with her ex while she was dating you? I don't know how happy I'd be if my bf was chatting to his ex's.... Thathurts, I know you love her and you want her back, but it sounds like she has already moved on. I don't think she was using you at all - a 2+ year relationship isn't a rebound. . You sound like a decent bloke, I think its time you started dating again. Go and find a nice girl and forget about your ex dating her ex.
Author thathurts Posted June 18, 2005 Author Posted June 18, 2005 i see, all i wonder is, am i the a guy for her to forget her ex? You know 2.5 half years serious relationship thats something. I know she started a realtionship without healing, before she starts with her older ex, she sent me text messages saying that she love me so much, will she think about me. Older ex is rebound or me.. That bustard hurt her so badly and i was the one who healed her..and if she does compare, dman i wish one day she will contact me and ask me to come back.. and i will say too late babe. i wish i could understand how woman mind works.
Author thathurts Posted June 18, 2005 Author Posted June 18, 2005 miss-gonewest, i just saw your post.. Yes i should go and date with a nice girl but i just can't. I want to heal first, i do not want to use anyone, because i know if i start a relationship without forgetting, it will fail also, i will compare and all. She was not contacting him while she was dating with me i am sure about that. That guy just showed up in right moment, when she was vulnarable (i do not know maybe she was dreaming about him 2.5 years, and when we brake up she see it as chance and got back with him again)
miss-gonewest Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Originally posted by thathurts I see, all I wonder is, am I the a guy for her to forget her ex? You know 2.5 half years serious relationship that's something. Older ex is rebound before me.. That bastard hurt her so badly and I was the one who healed her..and if she does compare, damn I wish one day she will contact me and ask me to come back.. and i will say too late babe. i wish i could understand how woman mind works. Yep - I'm a gal and I am only just learning how my own mind works! The only thing I can say is that open and honest communication is a blessing... If I can talk about what I am thinking, and if he will listen then maybe we will both have a better understanding. But in your case, you will have to use this trick for the next gal that comes along. Make sure you let her talk, without getting defensive and without letting your ego and male pride get in the way, and make sure you LISTEN. Women are better talkers - we use our emotions. Men are better thinkers - you use your logic. Your ex may not come back to you ever, but don't worry as she will always remember you and will sometimes think of you. Sorry you had to do the work for another guy to reap the benefits, but don't be bitter. Move on and look forward to the next relationship you may have.
Author thathurts Posted June 18, 2005 Author Posted June 18, 2005 Yes, i know it was my mistake, i did not listen her and i regret it so bad. Saddest part is, when i fall in love with her she was over-weight(not much), i usually stay away but she was different, and i made her lose weight by constantly requesting everday. She promised and she started losing weight for the last 10 months. Now, she is perfetcly firm and sexy(i really dont care she was so sexy no matter what), but she is not mine anymore and i know that her ex does not deserve her.. Well i do not know what to say anymore... I guess i do not want to be MR. Nice guy anymore, all the bad ones are getting all the benefits
zack121 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by miss-gonewest I'm confused too! I read here so often that people date, and then go back to the previous ex before the current ex... what? Do you all live on an island? Are there only 10 people in your town? Miss Gine West, I think it may come down to "better the devil you know" and thats why I assume people get back with ex's, I am no expert, but learning all the time.. I can relate to this BIG TIME mate. and I too wonder if I was a rebound or if her Ex Ex is her new rebound. I'm not sure if women, always use emotions, I feel that perhaps they have logic, or some form of logic that only they understand!!
Author thathurts Posted June 23, 2005 Author Posted June 23, 2005 i guess i was a rebound for her, when we were couple she told me that she left her ex she did not want him anymore. Yesterday, i have talked with one of my friend(she is also a friend of her and her ex) and she told me that, he dumped her 3 years ago, he was the one who did not want a relationship with her. I realized that she lied to me whole the time. I dont know why but hearing this made me so sad, not that i want her back, but part of my heart feels so sad to hear this. So i guess a rebound relationship can take long time and when woman have chance they use it
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