shortee Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I was dating a guy that I worked with until I had to have surgery. Then we had very limited contact as I couldn't get out much and he had some seemingly legitimate excuses as to why he could not meet up with me. This guy got a new job within the company and has a new schedule, but we still see each other a few times a week at work. It's been months since we spent any real time together or even communicated via phone/text. When we see each other, he blames his new schedule or issues with his kids and says he wants to get together soon. The other day, he came up to me and gave me a big hug and told me that he missed me and wants to meet up soon. Huh? I don't get that. If he's not interested, why do that? I feel like he's blowing me off and leading me on at the same time. As I still see him and I want to have a good work environment, I still want to find a way to tell him he doesn't have to lie to me in order to let me know if he's not interested. Or if he is interested and he's leading me on, I need to find a way to let him know that's not cool. Or I want to find a way to tell him in a friendly way, that this situation is not working for me. I just don't know how to do it.
Cinnamonstix Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 You tell him through your actions. You move on.
Author shortee Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 I have been just living my life and not coming up to him or calling/texting him. He was the one who came up to see me the other day. I didn't ask him about doing anything. In fact, I stopped asking him. The day he came over to give me a hug, I didn't initiate any conversation. He came up to me and I said hello. He told me he missed me. Then he said "we should get together again sometime. I'll call you". But of course he never did. He does this a lot actually. I basically have moved on, but he is still saying things to make me believe he wants me in his life. However, his actions have proven otherwise. I just don't know how to go about dealing with him when he does that.
soph-walker Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I was dating a guy that I worked with until I had to have surgery. Then we had very limited contact as I couldn't get out much and he had some seemingly legitimate excuses as to why he could not meet up with me. This guy got a new job within the company and has a new schedule, but we still see each other a few times a week at work. It's been months since we spent any real time together or even communicated via phone/text. When we see each other, he blames his new schedule or issues with his kids and says he wants to get together soon. The other day, he came up to me and gave me a big hug and told me that he missed me and wants to meet up soon. Huh? I don't get that. If he's not interested, why do that? I feel like he's blowing me off and leading me on at the same time. As I still see him and I want to have a good work environment, I still want to find a way to tell him he doesn't have to lie to me in order to let me know if he's not interested. Or if he is interested and he's leading me on, I need to find a way to let him know that's not cool. Or I want to find a way to tell him in a friendly way, that this situation is not working for me. I just don't know how to do it. Forget about him. He's keeping you warm for when he decides to pick you up again. Don't allow yourself to be treated as an option. Excuses are BS.
Author shortee Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 Forget about him. He's keeping you warm for when he decides to pick you up again. Don't allow yourself to be treated as an option. Excuses are BS. So how do I go about forgetting about him and moving on when he comes up to me and gives a hug and kiss? And tells me he wants to get together soon? How do I go about it in a friendly way since we still have to work in the same facility?
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