hutt Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Hi all, thank you for visiting the thread. To make a long story short, about a week ago, my ex broke up with me because we had just gone through our first stressful week (talking about the future and other extenuating circumstances). He decided to sever ties because the stress we had experienced was too much, and clouded how he felt about me. I was pretty devastated seeing as we had such a seamless, respectful relationship up until this point and thought the decision was hastily made. Fast forward a couple of days, and he reaches out to check in on me and see how I'm doing. In a conversation with a friend of mine, he said he was still trying to figure everything out between us and how one week had tainted his view of us but that he had not come to a conclusion about his feelings. I went NC but caved, telling him that I missed him, to which he responded he missed me too. When we broke up, we decided that we'd reconvene after giving each other some space and see how we felt. When I told him I felt ready to see him, he asked for another day to clear his head and thanked me for being "really amazing" about being patient and giving him the space he needed. Then, he suggested we grab dinner. I'm really nervous about what this all means. I would absolutely love to get back together with him, but I also don't want to get my hopes up about the supposed "positive signals" coming my way. I'm also confused about dinner - he hasn't prefaced it as a meeting as friends or a meeting to talk nor has he referenced wanting to be friends to our mutual acquaintances - and am wondering how I should interpret this. I'm trying to come in with no expectations and honestly think it'd be cruel to meet up for dinner, such a date-like thing, without any intentions of testing the water, but I honestly have no clue. Does anyone have any reads on this or have any experiences similar to this they want to share? Thanks!
LD1990 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I'd be pretty wary about getting back together with someone who breaks up with you after your first stressful week together. Stressful situations are something couples have to be able to handle. Do you want to be with a guy whose reaction to stress is breaking up with you? The other issue is that a week isn't long at all, so it's not like he could fix any underlying issues in such a short period of time.
erklat Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 First stressful week? How old are you? Strike this one out and look for someone who's into you or at least has a decency to say otherwise.
mightycpa Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 Fast forward a couple of days, and he reaches out to check in on me and see how I'm doing.Whoop! Whoop! Whoop! Life about to be ****ed up alert! Whoop! Whoop! Whoop! If you'r smart, you'll give up this "I want to get back together" fantasy and kick him to the curb. He may indeed want to get back together with you, but believe me when I say that something is wrong here. It almost never works out, and that's why everybody counsels complete separation. You're likely to be a breakup statistic, the only real question is will it be immediate, or will it be later. I know that sounds so negative and excessively hopeless, but generally, it is.
basil67 Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 How about you bluntly ask why he's proposing dinner? If he blathers on about being friends, you then know to give it a miss. I'm curious about breaking up after a 'stressful week'. Did either of you exhibit unfortunate behaviours during this week? Like being rude, hurtful or distant?
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