Lovestinks12 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Hey Everyone, I have a crush on this girl in my class since the fall semester. Shes in my class for the spring semester as well. I never spoke to her in the fall cause I was shy. I spoke to her this semester only once, but it seemed like a good start. The odd thing is after we spoke , I've saw her several times around school and we make eye contact, but neither of us say hello haha. Its definitely strange and I am wondering why she wouldnt at least say hi since we have spoken already. Its at the point where I awkwardly just stare at her and when she stares back, I glance away lol. The first time we had class, we both would stare at each other randomly, but I was never sure what the staring meant.i notice that alot with people, but not sure if its a god thing or a bad thing. Anyway, everyday i torture myself to initiate a conversation or ask her out, but i usually back out or it never seems like the right time. She sits next to this kid in class and i notice they talk and I know they text with each other, but idk if its just platonic or romantic. Should I just flat out come clean with her and see what happens? The semester is almost over and I don't want to not try. Should I tell her how I've had a crush on her and how I've been to shy to really talk to her?
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Try smiling and initiating a short conversation again. If you keep going like this you run the risk of being labeled weird because you keep looking at her but you don't say hi... Yeah I know she is doing the same but its kinda follow the leader with things like this so you just have to take the lead, smile and say hello more often. If you talk to her you will find out about the other guy. Rule of thumb is just talk to people as though there is nothing in it but a simple passing of the day. That way during conversation you can find out more about them and learn if a. it is appropriate to ask them out and b. if it is "safe" to ask them out. I.e. you are likely to get a positive response... 1
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Say hello a couple of times. See how she reacts to that. Find a reason to talk to her. I suggest asking to see her class notes. Try to get her to study with you. Assuming that goes well, ask her to have some food with you, even just a cup of coffee. Your timing is kind of off. What is your plan for summer break? An LDR will be stressful. I may just lay the ground work & have your 1st date next semester. 1
DreamP Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Next time you catch her staring at you, smile and wave. If you are close by, say hi. If she responds positively with a wave, then after the class ends, approach and start a conversation. Just ask about the class, the lecture you just heard, the homework that was assigned, etc. Introduce yourself to the friend she sits with during the conversation so you don't look like you are just trying to get her away from the friend. See how that goes first. 1
Methodical Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 You can't do the same thing day in and day out and expect change. At this point, she may be getting a creeper vibe bc all you do is stare. It's time to step up your game; otherwise, you'll never have a chance. What's the worst thing that can happen? You ask and she declines. That happens sometimes. The reality is that you'll never have a shot if you don't put forth a little effort. Ask her out. 1
Author Lovestinks12 Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 (edited) so I should just be blunt if I get the chance You think flat out telling someone you've had a crush is a good idea? Edited April 13, 2016 by Lovestinks12
Methodical Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Something more along the lines of: Hey, we've had a couple classes together and I'd like to get to know you. Would you like to have dinner with me Friday evening? NOT: I've had this major crush on you since last semester. Would you like to go out sometime? 1
Author Lovestinks12 Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 haha good thing I asked.. asking a girl out like that isn't weird though? how about I've wanted to ask you out since last semester? I feel like the most ideal approach is getting to know her slowly, but obviously I failed at that lol.
Author Lovestinks12 Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 on a side note though, I talk to this other girl in my class cause she sits next to me. I have no attraction towards her, but I think she likes me..i could be wrong. however, she did invite me out the other day to hang out with her. I guess it is as easy as that. I feel like I made this a bigger issue than it had to be and its at the point where its gotten awkward. I feel like a couple of drinks before class would ease things for sure, but obviously I cant do that.
Acerboy Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 so I should just be blunt if I get the chance You think flat out telling someone you've had a crush is a good idea? No don't ask her out yet. Talk to her about the class and how she is doing so far. Something might come up and you can talk about it too. Then you can ask about what other classes she is taking. Or ask if her classes are as tough as last semester and whether she does get the chance to do something for fun (other than studying). Based on what she say, you can say something like that's interesting, I would love to know more about you. Would you like us to grab something to eat and get to know each other sometime? Will xxx work for you or when are you free? You don't have to repeat all these, but I hope you get the point. 1
Author Lovestinks12 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Posted April 15, 2016 (edited) thanks everyone for the advice, but I failed to act on it again. I feel like its already too weird and I worked myself up to the point that I get too nervous when I see her. sorry for wasting your time guys. Edited April 15, 2016 by Lovestinks12
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