LiveLaughLove1 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I am not asking because, I want this person back. I just want to understand so maybe I can avoid this is in the future. Background: guy came on strong but, in a weird way. He kept texting me and setting up "dates" but, not romantic at all, felt platonic. I could tell he really liked me. Finally kissed me on date three. His friend comes into town and he goes MIA. Then comes back with more texts. No plans. I started to move on because it seemed like we were fizzling out. He sends me a text on a night he knows I am at a work event asking to meet up which obviously I can't. Then a few days later again asks to meet up. I agree. Then that night he says he is going to be a couple hours late because he has things to do. I say never mind another night, whatever. He gets super defensive saying I'm the one who cancelled the date and I wouldn't meet up with him the previous time and I'm being too needy by expecting him to fit into my schedule. I broke it off. I'm just a little confused on what happened? For the record: no sex.
Poppyolive Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Good for you. Block this guy and move on. Sounds like he has a few others on the go, and maybe plans fell through that night, or he was with a girl then wanting to meet you and you bruised his ego. He certainly has a sense of entitlement, that you are better off knowing now. I went on a date recently with a guy. It went well, I wasn't too sure, we went on a second date, and things he says about this family and his past set off red flags for me. I kindly declined any further dates, saying that perhaps we aren't compatible, and wished him the best, etc...boy, this guy flipped chis lid, was so horrible to me, calling me nasty names etc....needless to say I had to block him. I didn't partake in the abuse. There are some jerks out there, female ones too, I'm sure. Be glad you know all this now.
Eighty_nine Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I think he was trying to manage your expectations by treating you badly. When guys set the bar low, it's easier to control you and not have to exert much effort. You weren't having it. Good for you! I don't think one cancel or delay of a date means that's what's happening, but this guy has given you a lot of evidence that this is what he's doing.
truth_seeker Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Anytime a person starts getting angry and flips out in the beginning of dating, MAJOR... MAJOR RED FLAGS!!! This clown expected you to be at his beckoning call. File him under the category: Addition By Subtraction.
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