hhastings17 Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 I'll try to make this short!! I've been seeing this man for almost two months now. We are both pretty busy and our college and work schedules conflict a lot, but we see each other at least twice a week and talk everyday. I really enjoy being with him and I genuinely really like who he is as a person. We have had sex, and there was tons of chemistry in that department. I'm just confused about where we stand together as he sends mixed signals. He comes off as very guarded and he has just recently started opening up to me about some things in his past that he says he doesn't talk about. I'm looking to invest in someone that I would potentially be long-term with, and I told him that a few weeks ago and he basically told me that he enjoys being with me but he doesn't feel like he knows me enough to tell me he wants to be my "boyfriend." I understand some people move slower than others, but after two months of talking and seeing each other I feel like we are in the same place we were on our first date. I don't know if he just isn't looking for a serious relationship, or if its possible that he is just super guarded and cautious. Its frustrating because I don't want to waste my emotions on someone that isn't looking for the same thing I am. I'm just looking for some peoples oppinions or advice! Thank you!
266696687 Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 I'll try to make this short!! I've been seeing this man for almost two months now. We are both pretty busy and our college and work schedules conflict a lot, but we see each other at least twice a week and talk everyday. I really enjoy being with him and I genuinely really like who he is as a person. We have had sex, and there was tons of chemistry in that department. I'm just confused about where we stand together as he sends mixed signals. He comes off as very guarded and he has just recently started opening up to me about some things in his past that he says he doesn't talk about. I'm looking to invest in someone that I would potentially be long-term with, and I told him that a few weeks ago and he basically told me that he enjoys being with me but he doesn't feel like he knows me enough to tell me he wants to be my "boyfriend." I understand some people move slower than others, but after two months of talking and seeing each other I feel like we are in the same place we were on our first date. I don't know if he just isn't looking for a serious relationship, or if its possible that he is just super guarded and cautious. Its frustrating because I don't want to waste my emotions on someone that isn't looking for the same thing I am. I'm just looking for some peoples oppinions or advice! Thank you! I hate to say it but if after two months and sex he doesn't know if he wants to be your boyfriend chances are that he doesn't see your relationship as being long term. He is willing to have sex with you but not offer you the simple title of being his girlfriend. If he was genuinely interested in you and wanted you all to himself being your boyfriend would not be an issue. You shouldn't have to ask for the title. You haven't been dating that long but in my experience any guy who says 'he isn't ready for a relationship' or 'I don't know you well enough to commit' (yet he knows you well enough to have sex with you) is simply in it for the sex. I wouldn't stick around for this guy. You clearly want different things. 5
Larryville Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 I really enjoy being with him and I genuinely really like who he is as a person. We have had sex, and there was tons of chemistry in that department. I'm just confused about where we stand together I hate to say it but if after two months and sex he doesn't know if he wants to be your boyfriend chances are that he doesn't see your relationship as being long term. I’m sorry but there is a thread started with this theme a few times a week. Can we break down the response, a shortened version of what is stated above... #WantsSexButNothingMore Or if you’re confused about where you stand, you got your answer… 1
LostOnes05 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 Has sex with you but doesn't know you well enough to call you his girlfriend...there's a term for that...hmm... hmm...let me see what is it?! ...that's right! that's it! ...it ends in boy and has a four letter word in front of it. Essentially he is using you until who he really wants becomes available or he finds someone else. How do I know?? A woman pulled the same crap on me, even though she was telling me she loved me, etc., etc. Always look at actions...if he is getting what he wants without giving you a gf title, why should he?? Best of luck and my advice...drop this guy or two months from now you'll be back telling us how he "suddenly" ended it and was in a new relationship weeks later.
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