AVeryConfusedGuy Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 Their's this girl that I find interesting, I don't know her very well and wanted to try and change that. I asked if she wanted to hangout with me and some of my friends and she said sure, and I wrote my number down and gave it to her. She actually texted me like 20 minutes later to my surprise and we had small talk till she went to bed, I told her I'd text her the next day. I did and things were great. We actually texted for like 8 hours straight just talking about random things and even learning a bit about each other and having laughs/jokes. Everytime I texted her she would reply within seconds to a minute within each text. She even asked questions about me to keep the conversation going when it was starting to die down, and we even brought up what we look for in relationships. We texted till like 3 in the morning until we said goodnight. I made plans that night for us to hangout this weekend, but she's been a little distant with the texting the past 2 days. I'd ask how her day is or something and she's giving me few word responses that seem like she doesn't want to talk. And she's been ending it with "oh cool" and texts that make it hard to keep it going. I don't want to seem clingy or anything so I'm going to leave her alone until we hangout this weekend. But what gives? Could it just be her being busy or tired (which she did admit to having a long day)?
mikecr50 Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 Back off, most likely that's what she is saying. Gotta play it cool, just say good morning and ask her how she's doing and leave it.
Author AVeryConfusedGuy Posted April 12, 2016 Author Posted April 12, 2016 I'm 20 and she's 18 and in high school. Maybe she's just busy with school work and stuff? When we texted it was on the weekend, so maybe she's just busy? I'm not really experienced with reading girls so I might be overthinking things.
Larryville Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 We actually texted for like 8 hours straight just talking about random things Aw man I was about to hit submit reply... totally different rant... but saw ages and said never mind... Was gonna do an anti-text rant... There a few here who are avid texting promoters YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE! Carry on different era, I'm still on rotary phones... 4
7675 Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 Age is important. For younger people (Like myself) texting is an important form of communication. In your specific case, I think it's great that you were able to chat for so long without having to force it. But it's important that you don't start forcing it now (I've made that mistake so many times). Just see how she acts when you meet in person. Otherwise, stop trying to force any convos with her. Whether she's busy or no longer interested, doesn't matter. Forcing it won't help. If you do reach out to her, keep it light and don't be afraid of ending the convo if she responds with an "oh cool" or anything like that. If she initiates with you, and seems engaged, then you can carry chatting as you were. 1
The_Dork_Lard Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 That's the problem with relationships based on text: there's little else to hold them up. It seems great at first, and you have as much text as you can get in those carefree early days. But textual relationships often fizzle out quickly, and the textual intercourse is over quicker, and dies down to once a week. She might not think you're as texty as you once were, I don't know. In all seriousness though, try not texting her for, as you say, a few days. Give her some breathing space, and her actions will speak volumes. Let her initiate things, because if you start bombarding her with texts in the vague hope you'll get those longer and frequent replies again, I'm afraid you'll probably be disappointed. One thing I've learnt over the years: if a female wants to be in your space, she will make a lot of effort to do so. 1
iphone_user1 Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 8 hours straight? Okay, maybe her femamle friends told her to play the hard to get game LOL you know, at that age (18) they just go according to what their closest female friends think about.
Zippy2000 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 She may like you if she has the energy to text you 8 hours straight but this is the thing that bothers me most. People spend so much time texting than phoning. It gets tiring and it becomes hard work. Text if you must but be a little mysterious. Give it a few hours or a day or two. If you focus too much on texting.....GUESS WHAT?.......People loose interest. I ve been on countless dates where I ve texted and the conversation has run dry. You need to ask her out and have a normal human interaction with her. If you text for days or weeks. people don't see the end of the tunnel for texting. It ll get boring. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 You can't tell anything via text message. Stop trying. How witty to you really expect an 18 year high school girl to be? 8 hours of text (yuck) plus several "oh cool"'s seems positive to me. Stop over thinking it.
Author AVeryConfusedGuy Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 I mean it was only 1 night though it's not like we've been continuously texting 8 hours straight for several days a week, I couldn't keep up with that. I don't text someone thinking 'hey I want to text for hours and hours', it just happened that night because neither of us were busy. Normally I use texting as a means of building trust and getting to know each other so I can kind of 'break the ice' on what to expect from this person when we do hangout. I don't overdo texting, but since I hardly know her at all, I see nothing wrong with texting here and there. I was just wondering why girls will sometimes text you interestingly and flirty, then other times they're boring and short worded. It's weird.
Shanex Posted April 14, 2016 Posted April 14, 2016 I dislike texting excessively. Especially when I get short and evasive response. 1
lino Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 She's likely sending longer and more frequent texts to other guys she's more into. Ever seen an under 30 woman without a phone in their hand? Exactly. 8 hours straight? Okay, maybe her femamle friends told her to play the hard to get game LOL you know, at that age (18) they just go according to what their closest female friends think about. Unfortunately that mentality carries on well after age 18. I'd even venture to say the friends approval becomes more important to them as they age. Perhaps when they're 70-80 that matters less.
Omei Posted April 15, 2016 Posted April 15, 2016 Maybe she's text out, text her on the day of your hangout ask if yall still on.
phineas Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 I dislike texting excessively. Especially when I get short and evasive response. this. Why would I want to text someone who gives me short responses? I don't. Why would I would I want to text someone who waits a day to respond? I don't. yet women can't seem to understand why i stop contacting them. LOL 1
VeveCakes Posted April 16, 2016 Posted April 16, 2016 I mean it was only 1 night though it's not like we've been continuously texting 8 hours straight for several days a week, I couldn't keep up with that. I don't text someone thinking 'hey I want to text for hours and hours', it just happened that night because neither of us were busy. Normally I use texting as a means of building trust and getting to know each other so I can kind of 'break the ice' on what to expect from this person when we do hangout. I don't overdo texting, but since I hardly know her at all, I see nothing wrong with texting here and there. I was just wondering why girls will sometimes text you interestingly and flirty, then other times they're boring and short worded. It's weird. Call her and talk to her on the phone to do this instead!
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