simon_uk Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I probably know the answer to this before i even ask but i am hopefully dropping the ex's things off on Sunday. I will go to her mums and not tell her until after I have been. Now my question. Is it wise to put a note in the box at all? I mean I wasnt going to write a love letter or anything but just feels a bit strange not to say something, I dont know what to say or what is best but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Want to tell her that I really would have married her! But doubt that would be good?
krbshappy71 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I don't really have details to answer this. Perhaps a note saying "I wish we could talk to have more closure than just leaving your items here...if you are interested please call me." Can you GIVE her the items instead of dropping them off?
ImaManDammit Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk I probably know the answer to this before i even ask but i am hopefully dropping the ex's things off on Sunday. I will go to her mums and not tell her until after I have been. Now my question. Is it wise to put a note in the box at all? I mean I wasnt going to write a love letter or anything but just feels a bit strange not to say something, I dont know what to say or what is best but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Want to tell her that I really would have married her! But doubt that would be good? Well you probably know what I am going to say, but I'll say it anyway. You will accomplish nothing with her by doing that except to continue to have her now that she has you still in her web. Sometimes the clearest message is no message at all, and that's the message she should receive.
Author simon_uk Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 I could give her the items instead of dropping them off but I prefer not to see her. I'mamandamnit Yes I did presume you would say something along those lines and I would guess you are probably right. Just dont want to blow it. But I guess either way I will think I have???
westernxer Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 How can you blow it by not saying anything? Might as well crawl over while you're at it.
outdated Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk I could give her the items instead of dropping them off but I prefer not to see her. Put all her stuff in a dog food bag and leave it. Be done with it. No note, no nothing. Let your silence do the talking and take back your pride.
Author simon_uk Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 I hear you Westy, no need to be rude though. You know some of us find it difficult man. I meant blow it because like a fool, i guess i am thinking she wants me to convince her I love her. WRONG!?!?!?! Thanks for the response.
NTB Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 dude i gotta agree with everyone else here don't write anything just drop the stuff off and be done with it......... just let it go
westernxer Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk I hear you Westy, no need to be rude though. You know some of us find it difficult man. I hear you, bro, but I'm not gonna cut corners when it comes to giving advice to dudes. Time to get tough, like Sir Alex Ferguson or Roy Keane. Sometimes pride is all you've got (what's left of it, anyway).
Author simon_uk Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 Wow! An American who knows about MUFC!!!! Im not a fan of football (soccer) myself but I am impressed that you know your stuff! Well still trying to convince myself that she hasnt just contacted me about the things as an excuse just to make contact. I mean she didnt even use or wear the things for about a year they were in the wardrobe! I AM A FOOL FOR BELIEVING THIS I KNOW!!!!!
ImaManDammit Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk Yes I did presume you would say something along those lines and I would guess you are probably right. Just dont want to blow it. But I guess either way I will think I have??? There's nothing to blow simon. Everymove you make now is for you and you alone. What you don't want to blow is your self respect. Because at least from I can see you still have that, and even though you may not be able to see it, it a hell of a lot. I understand that acceptance is tough, but you cannot second your actions because you're worried about lost opportunities for things that are not really opportunties. You have have to consider that the play has end. You're just returning the clothes to wardrobe and now you're on to another play. You're getting there though.
westernxer Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk Wow! An American who knows about MUFC!!!! Im not a fan of football (soccer) myself but I am impressed that you know your stuff We're out there, scattered across the country. Long live soccer! Now use that boot to kick her memory to the curb.
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