Methodical Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 (edited) All of that taken together spells T E M P O R A R Y, in neon letters. You sound more and more like a guy who got caught up in wishful thinking. As a result, I really don't know if you should be judging her with this whole "what kind of person does that" nonsense. She appears to be pretty transparent if you ignore the words and look at the track record. Perhaps a little more reflection is in order. I hope the above quote is for the OP's benefit and not mine bc if you've read my opinion, it has stayed consistent thruout this thread and I agree that she, the SB, marketed herself as a temporary materialistic woman who never intended to settle down and become someone she isn't. My post was an example of a woman I know, not the OP's sugar baby. I think you may have failed to take heed to that, or that I corrected the "inclination" to "no inclination" ;-). Edited April 13, 2016 by Methodical
mightycpa Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I hope the above quote is for the OP's benefit and not mine bc if you've read my opinion, it has stayed consistent thruout this thread and I agree that she, the SB, marketed herself as a temporary materialistic woman who never intended to settle down and become someone she isn't. My post was an example of a woman I know, not the OP's sugar baby. I think you may have failed to take heed to that, or that I corrected the "inclination" to "no inclination" ;-). sorry, I got the names confused. anyway, same point, different target. sorry. 1
Methodical Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 sorry, I got the names confused. anyway, same point, different target. sorry. It's all good. I thought there must have been some confusion bc we're of the same mindset on this issue . 1
Author couldgetlucky Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 well she was married once...of course it was his fault, wouldn't work so I was told. But without verification I don't believe much now In retrospect I think she spent him broke and dumped him. So I do think there's some personality problems. I guess I was willing to overlook all the warning signs ! I'm getting my head around it all...its still not right to treat people like that especially me !! 1
Satu Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 (edited) well she was married once...of course it was his fault, wouldn't work so I was told. But without verification I don't believe much now In retrospect I think she spent him broke and dumped him. So I do think there's some personality problems. I guess I was willing to overlook all the warning signs ! I'm getting my head around it all...*its still not right to treat people like that especially me !! *What isn't right? 1. Accepting what you gave her of your own free will? 2. Parting company with you at a moment of her choice? If both of those are "not right," just about everyone who ends a relationship is a sociopath! “My bounty is as boundless as the sea, My love as deep; the more I give to thee, The more I have, for both are infinite.” ― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet Edited April 13, 2016 by Satu 4
salparadise Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 You are not going to find a virtuous woman who is looking for a savior in a brothel Great quote! Or on a sd/sb site. This is just common sense. The difference between an SB and a prostitute is that the SB pretends to actually be into you, doesn't watch the clock as closely, and you don't toss the money on the bed. But that doesn't change the fundamental nature of the relationship. OP, you discovered along the way that she's a liar too. Even if you were starting to view it as more meaningful than a pay-to-play arrangement, this should've been an eye-opener. But it wasn't, and now you're perplexed that she could be so cold and heartless. I am no doubt more angry at myself for being emotionally entrapped than anything else...trying to lash out I thought I had more sense and I am trying to not become cynical I've become a stereotype for a life time movie!! Not my goal And I'm laughing as I write this The best thing to do is own it. That way you can change how you view the world rather than having the same expectations, and the same result, next time around. Personally, I think it's stupid to pay for "companionship." If they all had to depend on guys like me the unemployment rate would quadruple. OP, why don't you give real women a chance––there are oodles of nice, love-starved women in their 50s, and unless there is something askew about your presentation all you have to do is be real and sociable. And it would probably be more satisfying too unless paying in cash plays into some kind of kink you've got going on. 2
SammySammy Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 well she was married once...of course it was his fault, wouldn't work so I was told. But without verification I don't believe much now In retrospect I think she spent him broke and dumped him. So I do think there's some personality problems. I guess I was willing to overlook all the warning signs ! I'm getting my head around it all...its still not right to treat people like that especially me !! "It's not personal, it's business." They have to be that way to survive. That's the nature of sex work. Sell the fantasy, but don't fall in love with clients. One of the basic rules of the game. Ignore it to your own detriment. 2
BlueIris Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 OP, why did you go to a SD/SB site? Why not Match or some other site that doesn't premise relationship on money? 4
xxoo Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 good morning all from what some of you are saying...the how and way we met makes it automatic that, disingenuous, deceit, lies etc. should be expected? I don't believe that should be the case. Now maybe people who operate from those sites are more inclined that way The other side of the coin is I met her that same way and was none of those things. I also understand I should have protected myself/emotions etc but I bought in and that's my fault. This still goes back to my original post of what type of person does this so coldly.... She didn't have all the power in this relationship because she was younger than me...I'm actually a good catch But she obviously was in need of something else The idea of revenge is juvenile and I understand that... should people be allowed to operate that way with some sort of social accountability ..which sound better than revenge !! Yes, she lived up to predictable expectations. You, also, are living up to predictable expectations. You were buying a fantasy (which she provided), and are having a hard time separating fantasy from reality. If you believe you are a great catch (I'm not doubting that you are ), why not use more traditional dating methods to find love and affection? 1
xxoo Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I'm getting my head around it all...its still not right to treat people like that especially me !! What specifically did she do that was wrong? Leaving you? 1
Author couldgetlucky Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 Good morning sorry for the delay I question now why the SD site I guess it just seemed easier at the time and the allure of a younger woman was a draw .. Fantasy no doubt my personality style is not for that life style and I have learned accordingly In response to what she did wrong ...its partially that she dumped me hurt ego etc I do think it was more how, completely out of the blue without any warning Again my personality style is to argue and hash it out and never had that chance I'm Italian so I need a discussion !!! I don't do well with passive aggressive style
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