Would you say I'm a nice guy

[lukeskyler]

I always here "nice guys finish last"

 

Well I don't know if thats true

 

Im not a push over, If im dating a girl and she does something out of line I'll call her out on it. I'm cheesy but not in a way thats to much. I can be romantic but i dont over do it

 

I can be sarcastic and give her crap but if i take it to far ill apologize with no hesitation.

 

I dont know. Its hard to tell. Some girls lik when you are sarcastic and others like it when you can give them crap

[Zippy2000]

"Would you say am I nice you"?

 

Reminds me of the Prison film Shawshank Redemption where the main character is asked why he is in jail. He replies:

 

"Im innocent"!

 

and is met with the answer:

 

"Everyone in here is innocent. Youre gonna fit right in".

 

What I m saying is everyone is a nice guy, not just you.

 

Give it time and an people will find out things they dont like about you.

 

So you can be the nicest of guys but people do things that turn people of.

[Jabron1]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say no. You are not a 'nice-guy'.

 

You're just someone looking to get their needs met, the same as everyone.

Edited April 12, 2016 by Jabron1

[smudge21]

When I hear "nice guys finish last" I think a good reply is "that's because we always make sure the girl comes first"...

 

 

But anyway, this falls into the notion that girls always go for the bad boy, which for many I'm sure is true (I know a few). In the same sense, guys often fall for the bad girl too. Basically, a lot of it comes down to wanting what we can't have. The bad girl/boy is the challenge; they're hard work, they may be hard to get, they may even have other interests. Plus we always think we can save people and make them better. It's all a bit messed up, but humanity is what it is, and dating is a minefield.

 

 

I consider myself one of the nice guys, in that I treat people with respect and honesty, basically I treat people as I would want them to treat me. Yes that has led to times when people, men and women, have taken advantage or seen my kindness as a weakness. however, I'm not about to change who I am just because I've met a few bad eggs. Don't look too much into the whole nice guy thing - just be yourself and accept that the reason some people don't get together is because they're not meant to.

[scooby-philly]

Hey OP,

 

Read your post and couldn't help but think about a book I'm reading on/off - No More Mr. Nice Guy. While it's kind of one of those cheesy self-help books filled with a lot of stuff you should already know - it does help convince me of an idea that I see around self-help circles and sites like this. "Nice Guy" is a syndrome. I won't bother you with history or analysis. Suffice to say many men are raised to be "nice" - which means we're not comfortable with our emotions (not the crying part but the anger, the loneliness, etc) we can't express anger or disappointment easily, we don't get our needs met, and we focus on "pleasing" and "helping" others when people just need to reach out and we'd be glad to help - but we don't have to actively pursue it.

 

Sounds like you might be starting to recognize some problems in yourself. Women do want nice guys. But they also want tough guys - guys who will protect them, who make them feel safe & wanted. So hit the gym, go for a run, do manly stuff.

[Larryville]

So you can be the nicest of guys but people do things that turn people off.

 

This is why EQ is so important and for people who either don’t have it (or are ignorant of it) fall into these categories.

 

Not totally understanding this but the thing is “nice guys” are always trying to convince you they are such nice people in addition “nice guys” many times aren’t listening to themselves when they speak goes back to top quote.

 

Any person I have every met that would put themselves in a “nice guy” category have frankly been @$$holes because the niceness is insincere, it is as fake as a $3 bill but “nice guys” don’t know that.

 

In dating “nice guys” think that all women owe them something, the thing is most women who are in tuned fundamentally know that “nice guys” are emotionally manipulative.

 

the term “nice guy” is fundamentally dishonest, because you can’t know that, what makes someone “nice” is subjective and that is something you earn over time by just being a good and loyal person and friend.

 

The typical “nice guy” is a liar from start to finish.

When it comes to women the “nice guy” spends so much of his time and effort trying to be as close to his designated crush as possible, pretending to be a “friend” (when it’s all subterfuge) and when they don’t get what they want the go nuclear and start with the “all women and itches” mindset.

 

I just don't get the term...