jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 There are some bills that my ex has to take care of. He is insisting that the only way he will do it is if I meet with him and his shrink today to go over the bills. He says he wants his shrink to "mediate". In my mind, he's being a really pu**y about the whole thing. But alas, I agreed to meet with them later today. It's been two months since he dumped me for some ugly fat chick from out of state. I've done my best to try and get over him. Going to counseling, keeping busy and going on dates with new men. The problem is that the hurt still lingers, and I'm really afraid that I'll start crying when I see him. I don't want him to know that he still affects me this way, but I don't really have control over the pain yet and if the tears start, they won't stop. I just don't want to backslide. I intend to go in there and act very business like. I just hope I can.
bicyclejunk Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 stay strong, you don't owe him anything and you certainly don't owe him any TEARS nor does he deserve them. Stay focused. Go in there and do your best. Why do you have to meet and go over bills with his SHRINK? seems very P*ssy- Like, indeed. Seriously though, don't see this dude as the old Boyfriend, see him as some dude you used to know, who made bad decisions and needs a Shrink to be there in the same room, to go over bills? very silly. I wish you Luck!!!!!
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 Thank you for the words of encouragement. It's going to take all my will power to stay strong, since this is still so fresh. As for the shrink... I really can't understand it, because my ex is also a psychologist. Most people don't know this, but most shrinks have their own shrink. But in his case, he realllllllllllllly needs one.
miss-gonewest Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Jen, how did it all go with this ex??? Were you big and tough and brave? How was it seeing him (and his shrink *giggle*)?
Rosalind Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Actually, jen_jen_heartbroken, This is what an actual psychiatrist can do! They will help sort out any financial difficulties a person is experiencing, they will write letters to employers (requesting them to show compassion for the ailing person), they will phone friends and relatives - telling them the person has been sick, but is now undergoing the proper treatment to help them get well, they will authorize the pharmacy to give the patient Rx meds with NO CHARGE! The things my shrink did to help me - were mindblowing!!! Anyways, how did it go?
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 20, 2005 Author Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by miss-gonewest Jen, how did it all go with this ex??? It was difficult. His shrink was nice enough. My ex said he didn't trust me. I laughed. I said, "You don't trust me? That's hysterical." Ironically, the shrink sided with me in telling my ex to trust me (about the bills) because he did. I guess he knows what an a$$ my ex can be. There was some conversation about the relationship, but not much. But at least when I did bring up the fact that my ex lied to, disrespected and cheated on me, his shrink agreed that my ex was out of line. There was no "goodbye" said. And as I got up to leave, with my ex still in the office, the shrink walked me to the door. I told him to make sure that my ex gets help for his porn addiction. He nodded and said, "will do". It felt good to have affirmation that he did have a problem.
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