sugarbaby0701 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 ok, i broke up with my ex about 2 months ago, and never got over him, well, the whole time, he wanted to get back with me and i kinda pushed him away because i was kinda scared. well, about a week ago, i told him that i wanted to get back with him and he then told me that he had met someone else. he has known this other firl 2 weeks and he says they are just friends, but yet he wont get back with me, says hes confused. they talk all the time and see eachother. he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and says i have nothing to worry about, and whenever i am with him he is very huggy and kissy with me and will want to hang out with me, but then the second she calls or wants to do something i become nothing to him. he wont talk to me or answer my calls. i will be crying and really upset and still he would rather be on the phone with her. i love him and dont want to lose him, he says just give him time and that i shouldnt worry....but shouldnt i???? to me they are more then friends...my heart is in pain and i cant wait any longer...any advice???
Opium Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I think you made your decision clear when he tried to pursue you and you rejected him. He's confused and doesn't feel you're worth the effort anymore, In my opinion. You need to move on and give him his space, the break up was your idea so stick with it. If you really loved him and still had feelings for him you wouldn't have waited so long. A lot can happen doing a break-up, one of the things is finding out your SO is with someone else. You shouldn't be sad because he found someone else, it should open your eyes and make you realize he's not a puppet, and maybe you're feeling this way because he's a great guy and you don't want anyone else to have him? You can't blame him for trying to move on, and now he's stuck between a love he "had" with you, and something that "could" be love and maybe even better. I'm not trying to sound mean or anything but making you realize this whole thing happened because of your fear. Fear of what? I don't know but it definitely got in the way of someone you love. Maybe giving him some time alone would be good for him, he needs to realize on his own if the feelings for you are still strong, and trust me if they are, this new relationship with the girl won't last. But remember, theirs is a possibility he just wants someone new.
Author sugarbaby0701 Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 the whole time we were apart i told him that i wanted to be with him and that i needed time to think about things and we spent time together and and hung out and things were great, so its not like i rejected him
Opium Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by sugarbaby0701 the whole time we were apart i told him that i wanted to be with him and that i needed time to think about things and we spent time together and and hung out and things were great, so its not like i rejected him Well then now it's your turn to fight for him. If you feel you really want this to work out you have to prove to him, which ever way you can, that you're serious and you want to be with him. This break could benefit your relationship and make you appreciate each other better but now you're in a difficult position. If you think he's worth the fight, then you better fight. After you put up a fight and make him see your love for him is true and he still rejects you, then all I can say is, you were to late, move on. But if you LOVE him, fight!!!
Author sugarbaby0701 Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 i am fighting! im fighting sooo incredibly hard! i even bought him a promise ring to prove my love for him. i just dont understand...he tells that he really wants to get back with me and i dont know if hes just leading me on or what, because like i said, he kisses me and hugs me and i just dont know what to think...its like im this great thing and then im dirt when this other girl call or anything...
Opium Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Give him his space, that's all I can tell you now. Good Luck!
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