ohboi Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 This small incident been weighing on my mind, but I don't think anyone's making a big deal out of this TBH. I was at this party at a friend's house, mixed company. The girls were glad to see me. We had a great time. I was dancing with this one girl throughout the night, Kelli, some light flirting nothing serious, (at one point she'd undone a button on my shirt). I've known everyone there, including her. It's getting late, we're tired and drunk, we lie on the couch, she lays her head on me, I stroke her face for a couple of seconds and I tell her "we should go sleep somewhere else"... right at that moment her friend, Jill, walks in on us, and yells "What are you two doing?!". Which I guess made Kelli self-conscious and awkward, she jumped up said it's late, called a cab and left. Next day, I talked to my friend Joe, who slept with Jill, and he says: "I've heard you've been molesting Kelli last night " What?! This is such a strong word even with the smiley, what the hell? He says it was Jill's words. What a poooooor choice of words. In my mind I did nothing such, there wasn't any sexual touching. Intimate? Yes. But Kelli was intimate as well. And normally I read body language well. It's quite possible Kelli has a bf right now, I don't know. Was I presumptuous? What happened? (I guess incidentally I've been hearing a lot of sexual assault stories in the news lately, there's noooo way I wanna be like any of those guys. Ugh. But again, nobody's making a deal out of this, it's only me ruminating.)
smudge21 Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 Could your friend just be having a bad taste joke with you, a bit of banter, or was that exactly how these other girls saw it? If it's banter from him, then have a go at him and then don't think anymore about it - hell, even get in touch with Kelli and see how she is. However, if it's from the girls then it is in bad taste and you need to shut it down before stupid gossip starts spreading.
Toodaloo Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 Let it waft over your head and do not take it to heart. To molest a girl the touch has to be unwanted. Sounds like Kelli was comfortable and happy and that Jill is bit of a busy body... Just shrug it off. Make a joke of it (preferably not one that would upset Kelli) and just shrug.
jen1447 Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 Jill sounds like she's playing some guardian role, so naturally she'll use histrionics to try to strengthen her position. She just means (in her estimation) you were too handsy (for her liking). Why her estimation and liking are significant is another question, assuming Kelli's an adult. Don't worry about it.
truth_seeker Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 Jill is a b-tch. Kelli wanted to hook up but Jill c-ck blocked you. Your buddy was messing with you. Arrange another couch encounter with Kelli... 1
Author ohboi Posted April 11, 2016 Author Posted April 11, 2016 Yeah, it's just super embarassing that someone would talk about me like that, even jokingly. I'm not like Bill Cosby ffs!! And it's kinda hypocritical since part of the reason Jill and another friend of hers came to the party is to get f*cked by my friends. I did nothing sinister. Just two people slightly attracted to each other, being drunk and tired. I thought she gave me the green light. But now I'm embarassed coz I don't know if I've misjudged the situation. The only thing I can think of is that Kelli might have a boyfriend, and Jill reminded her in her own way. Or whatever. Everyone's in college btw. I guess I just wanted to give the facts to some internet strangers to ease my mind.
kendahke Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 I"d confront her and straighten her out. Kelli and you are adults, right? Whatever was going on between you two was never and will never be any of Jill's business. Ever. And throwing around a slanderous term isn't exactly mature on Jill's part.
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