Damaged217 Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 So I just got out of a 2-year relationship in the beginning of February. I have posted about this crappy relationship on here several times. It ended badly. Very badly. Jerkface cheated on me, 2 months after I caught him on a dating site messaging several women and decided to stupidly give him another chance. I was a mess. He caused a world of pain. But now that I've had some time, I realize that I'm not sure I even loved him, nor he me. We both screwed up. A lot. I took the breakup hard, but I think that's because of how it ended. I know also that I was just attached to him. We had been growing apart for months and I was thinking of breaking up with him, but just did not have the balls. If I had, I never would have found out about the other women and would have been better off. But what happened, happened. My question is this: Is it too soon to start dating again, even though I know I do not love my ex anymore? I just met a new guy and we had our first date last night. He is great. I mean really, really great. Neither of us were looking for anything serious, but we both said how meeting each other has changed that idea. He does not know that I only broke up 2 months ago. I'd like to be honest with him and tell him. But is that the best idea? Should I even be dating at this point? I don't want him to think he is a rebound. 1
Satu Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 There is no rule about how long to wait before you date. You're ready when you're ready. If you feel ready, you probably are. Take care. 3
Shanex Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 (edited) If he hasn't ''crushed'' you and you can heal and recover, I don't think there's an appropriate time. Some women give in the tentation to find ''rebound'' guys only to dispose of them, not implying you'd do this, but avoid any dramas. You've had enough already with your ex. Edited April 10, 2016 by Shanex 1
Author Damaged217 Posted April 11, 2016 Author Posted April 11, 2016 I feel like I am definitely ready to move on. So should I tell the new guy that I just recently got out of a relationship? I mean, I'm sure we will get into the previous relationships topic and I don't want to surprise him. I think I would feel slightly insecure if I was dating someone new and they tell me out of nowhere that they only got out of a serious relationship a couple of months before me. How do I approach this so as to not make him feel like he is the rebound? 1
Larryville Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 As Satu said: You're ready when you're ready. If you feel ready, you probably are. However…. And this applies to everyone who has ever asked themselves this question. Be ready not just for yourself, but for the other person or next person. While I have never been cheated on, relationships have ended no so cool and I lost some good people because I moved on too quickly and thought that by just moving on to the next warm body that would solve my mental state, that is a waste of the other person’s time. Be 100 percent ready for them as well. 2
Satu Posted April 11, 2016 Posted April 11, 2016 I feel like I am definitely ready to move on. So should I tell the new guy that I just recently got out of a relationship? I mean, I'm sure we will get into the previous relationships topic and I don't want to surprise him. I think I would feel slightly insecure if I was dating someone new and they tell me out of nowhere that they only got out of a serious relationship a couple of months before me. How do I approach this so as to not make him feel like he is the rebound? I would mention it when it comes up naturally in conversation, which it will. No need to make it a 'special' talk.
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