zack121 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Sorry, Just a stupid post excuse MODS, but becuase I am not all that experinced with relationships I'd thought I'd ask? When a women goes from a 6 year relationship into another one, why do this? I mean the point can be argued "why not" too. Do most females or males for that matter find it easier to deal with when they do this? My ex did that, and it really hurt me, she did not even have 1 week alone? She always said she was strong and independant, now I think is is weak and easily lead... ironically her realtionship has lasted longer than our engagement I have so much to learn, this place is great!. been reading allot of whats going on in other peoples lives. Seems like everybody has had pain and suffering, some stories are so sad. I think 99.9% of the time, its all lack of (1) Communication (2) the right form/understanding of communication.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by zack121 Do most females or males for that matter find it easier to deal with when they do this? I'd say that neither guys nor girls would find this comfortable. Unless: - it's a rebound - they had emotionally left the relationship a long time before
ConfusedInOC Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by zack121 Sorry, Just a stupid post excuse MODS, but becuase I am not all that experinced with relationships I'd thought I'd ask? When a women goes from a 6 year relationship into another one, why do this? I mean the point can be argued "why not" too. Do most females or males for that matter find it easier to deal with when they do this? My ex did that, and it really hurt me, she did not even have 1 week alone? She always said she was strong and independant, now I think is is weak and easily lead... ironically her realtionship has lasted longer than our engagement I have so much to learn, this place is great!. been reading allot of whats going on in other peoples lives. Seems like everybody has had pain and suffering, some stories are so sad. I think 99.9% of the time, its all lack of (1) Communication (2) the right form/understanding of communication. My counselor would classify it as a rebound relationship. That there has to be some significant time out of a relationship before you can enter into a new one that would have any significant meaning. One week is certainly not long enough.
alphamale Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 some women cannot be without a man for more than a few wks.
outdated Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale some women cannot be without a man for more than a few wks. Couldn't agree more. These are the people we call weak. No matter how strong they claim to be. they define themselves through someone else.
alphamale Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Love's a bitch. quite! many women are like monkeys. they won't let go of one branch until they have a firm grasp of another branch. I other words....they won't leave Dude "A" until they have Dude "B" by the nuts. THe key is to not be Dude "A".
Author zack121 Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC My counselor would classify it as a rebound relationship. That there has to be some significant time out of a relationship before you can enter into a new one that would have any significant meaning. One week is certainly not long enough. Dude, Read my story and then tell me what you think... sorry its so LONG but f**k me has me confused BIG TIME
SexKitten Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 maybe she knew the person before she broke up with you, and maybe it was part of the reason she did in the first place. it doesn't mean she's jumping from guy to guy with no thought process. otherwise maybe one week is enough for her. or maybe it is, in fact, a rebound. but don't worry about what she's doing--you don't have to anymore.
ConfusedInOC Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by zack121 Read my story and then tell me what you think... sorry its so LONG but f**k me has me confused BIG TIME Dude, do you have a reader's digest version of that?! It's extremely long and if you aren't getting many responses it's because nobody has the time to read through all that. Can you just cut it down into the important parts?!
ConfusedInOC Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by SexKitten maybe she knew the person before she broke up with you, and maybe it was part of the reason she did in the first place. it doesn't mean she's jumping from guy to guy with no thought process. otherwise maybe one week is enough for her. or maybe it is, in fact, a rebound. but don't worry about what she's doing--you don't have to anymore. Ususally that is how it happens, they meet someone else then break it off with the other person. But make no mistake, if there is little to no break between relationships, it's a rebound. There needs to be time to reflect and heal and it takes more than a week....
blind_otter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Ususally that is how it happens, they meet someone else then break it off with the other person. But make no mistake, if there is little to no break between relationships, it's a rebound. There needs to be time to reflect and heal and it takes more than a week.... Well, that depends. For example, say you were living with Guy A. You and Guy A decide to "slow things down" and one of you moves out. You see less and less of each other. You emotionally detach from the relationship. Meet Guy B. Fall for Guy B, while going through the motions of having a relationship with Guy A and being emotionally unfaithful. Then you finally break it off with Guy A and go for Guy B. Same thing could be said for dudes. This happened to me once. My BF at the time started seeing a friend of mine while I was on vacation when I was in college, and I returned from summer break with no BF and the girl was no longer my friend. But I don't think he and I were really "together" anymore, anyways.
Marshbear Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Love's a bitch. Couldn't agree more. Sh*t happens is another good one. I would just be glad she isn't with you. She's the next guys problem.....
SexKitten Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC But make no mistake, if there is little to no break between relationships, it's a rebound. There needs to be time to reflect and heal and it takes more than a week.... some people are just different, i guess. not all people feel the same way about that. sometimes, it just makes the dumpee feel better to say "oh, he's definitely not the one either."
Jadey Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 Originally posted by SexKitten some people are just different, i guess. not all people feel the same way about that. sometimes, it just makes the dumpee feel better to say "oh, he's definitely not the one either." Word...
Author zack121 Posted June 18, 2005 Author Posted June 18, 2005 cheers guys (i use the term in a non sexist way) Yeah sorry about the "reader digest" of a post, but wanted to get it all out! No she new him before me, prolly during me, and most def after me NOTE : I DID CUT IT DOWN as another poster asked me too... so scroll down a bit for JUST the highlights!!!
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