sufigirl Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I have posted on the OtherMan/Woman board mostly,just new here. I have been seeing a MM for about 6 months, and we are both head over heels in love. It has been hard for me at times..........we belong to the same social groups, and I see him with his wife a lot.........he sees men that are interested in me and ask him about me.......... So we are at a point where he is seriously considering leaving his wife, which is a huge deal ( 25yrs marriage). I have mostly turned down dates, by my own volition not his request, although he doesnt like it overly much if I date, he recognizes he h as no say in it. Last weekend, he was away with his wife, and a guy I knew from coming in where I work asked if I was single........naturally I say yes, because officially I am. And I gave him my phone #, and have talked to him a couple times. He seems like a nice guy, but I am still in love with someone else. So, I agreed to go out with him tonight..........my MM is out of town w/ his wife again.......and I feel like I'm cheating.........I tell MM everything I do, everyone I see, and not because he asks, I just do. But I didn't tell him this, and I'm not sure why. I don't want to keep seeing the guy, its not fair because I'm in love with someone else. So what do I say when I meet him tonight? Whats a good line to say I like you, but I shouldnt have made this date with you? Any advice? I know I sound hopelessly confused.......I am.
alphamale Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by sufigirl I have been seeing a MM for about 6 months, and we are both head over heels in love. that's nice, SUFIGIRL So we are at a point where he is seriously considering leaving his wife, which is a huge deal ( 25yrs marriage). Statistics show it is more likely he will stay with wifey than leave her. Why should he leave her? He already has his cake and is eating it, too! And I gave him my phone #, and have talked to him a couple times. He seems like a nice guy oh, a "nice guy"??? that is the kiss of death for him cause you don't like "nice guy" .......and I feel like I'm cheating......... not any more than MM is I don't want to keep seeing the guy, its not fair sounds to me like you have not even gone out with Mr. Nice Guy yet So what do I say when I meet him tonight? Whats a good line to say I like you, but I shouldnt have made this date with you? Just make him take you out for a $150 dinner and then blow him off when he calls later on....might as well get something for your pain and suffering
NTB Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 be honest if you don't want to see "the nice guy" then call and cancel
alwayswondering Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I think you should seriously consider dumping nice guy because of mm guy. I know you are in love but you have to love with your head and heart. Chances are pretty slim that mm guy will work out and even if it did, would you trust him to be with you only since he is cheating with his wife on you? I speak from experience on this one. Chances are you can't feel anything for nice guy because your heart is with mm guy but maybe you should give him til after the date and then decide. You might wish you had later on if things don't work with mm guy and you are wondering what happened to nice guy. This happened to me and I was alone because of it. good luck
blind_otter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Yick. What a mess. Just call the "nice guy" and tell him you're not interested. You don't owe him an explanation just cause you turned him down. Don't lead him on any more. Enjoy. Wish you continued success in your love life.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Go out with the SINGLE guy and keep your mitts off the married one.
Marshbear Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 yes. Go out with the single, available guy while your in love with the married, unavailable guy. As Westernxer says. (MM are the best. This form is full of single women in love with MM.) Hail to the MM....
alphamale Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Hail to the MM.... so the way to get a plethora of pussy is to get married? I wanna be the MM ..... waaaaah waaaah
guestww Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 """So, I agreed to go out with him tonight..........my MM is out of town w/ his wife again.......and I feel like I'm cheating.........I tell MM everything I do, everyone I see, and not because he asks, I just do. But I didn't tell him this, and I'm not sure why. I don't want to keep seeing the guy, its not fair because I'm in love with someone else. So what do I say when I meet him tonight? Whats a good line to say I like you, but I shouldnt have made this date with you? Any advice? I know I sound hopelessly confused.......I am.""" I understand how you feel that you're cheating on your MM, but your MM is married and has a wife. You really don't owe him any pledges to stay faithful as he is married already. Go and enjoy this guy. See how you feel, I mean the best thing that could happen to you is falling for this single guy and moving on without the MM. The MM isn't going to leave his wife for you and sadly here, he will break your heart. Being with the MM is preventing you from finding somebody else. What if this new guy is IT?? You could miss the boat! Do you see my point here? I know you love the MM, and think that he may leave his wife for you but the odds are against you on this one. Have fun tonight, if anything else, it will get your mind off MM.
Marshbear Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale so the way to get a plethora of pussy is to get married? I wanna be the MM ..... waaaaah waaaah MEEEEEEEEEE TOOOOOOO..............................................
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 18, 2005 Posted June 18, 2005 I think this needs reminding: Go out with the SINGLE guy and keep your mitts off the married one.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken I think this needs reminding: Go out with the SINGLE guy and keep your mitts off the married one. Give it up, Jen. This isn't the kind of thread where common sense cuts much ice lol...
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter I wonder what happened? But yes, I'm curious too. Be nice to "nice guy" Sufigirl.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Give it up, Jen. This isn't the kind of thread where common sense cuts much ice lol... Eh, sorry. I'm not usually a hostile person, but infidels and their accomplices anger me. I never could understand why so many people have so much lack of self-control when it comes to fidelity. I mean, it seems real simple.... you end one relationship before you start another... otherwise you're just selfish.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken I mean, it seems real simple.... you end one relationship before you start another... otherwise you're just selfish. Yeah, life is way simpler that way IMHO. And kinder to all concerned...
noname Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by sufigirl I have posted on the OtherMan/Woman board mostly,just new here. I have been seeing a MM for about 6 months, and we are both head over heels in love. It has been hard for me at times..........we belong to the same social groups, and I see him with his wife a lot.........he sees men that are interested in me and ask him about me.......... So we are at a point where he is seriously considering leaving his wife, which is a huge deal ( 25yrs marriage). I have mostly turned down dates, by my own volition not his request, although he doesnt like it overly much if I date, he recognizes he h as no say in it. Last weekend, he was away with his wife, and a guy I knew from coming in where I work asked if I was single........naturally I say yes, because officially I am. And I gave him my phone #, and have talked to him a couple times. He seems like a nice guy, but I am still in love with someone else. So, I agreed to go out with him tonight..........my MM is out of town w/ his wife again.......and I feel like I'm cheating.........I tell MM everything I do, everyone I see, and not because he asks, I just do. But I didn't tell him this, and I'm not sure why. I don't want to keep seeing the guy, its not fair because I'm in love with someone else. So what do I say when I meet him tonight? Whats a good line to say I like you, but I shouldnt have made this date with you? Any advice? I know I sound hopelessly confused.......I am. advice without judgement: find out if the single guy is really single and then get to know him. advice with judgement: (disregard if of no use) listen to jen_jen_heartbroken. she is really onto something here... you feel like you are cheating because you are. cheating with a married man. and cheating yourself...
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by noname advice without judgement: advice with judgement: Advice lite and advice regular (with twice the impact)?
noname Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Advice lite and advice regular (with twice the impact)? oops. was i being an a-hole? i am trying. i deleted the other stuff i wrote because it was too judgemental and she wasn't asking for all that...
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by noname oops. was i being an a-hole? Nooooo, I thought it was fine. I just enjoyed the fact that you gave 2 options. I'd definitely recommend regular. Lite seldom agrees with my life philosophy, anyhow...
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