PTL349 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Hey all.. I have been spending a lot of time reading through a lot of posts in various threads and topics. Mainly in "coping", " break ups", " LDR", etc. What struck me is there seems to be way more men coming here to talk about being on the receiving end of a breakup vs initiating the break ups. Is it my imagination? Are men more likely to seek this kind of support than women? Do women generally do the breaking up more than the men? I am Male for context. Thoughts?
Downtown Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 Are men more likely to seek this kind of support than women?Yes, I agree, PTL. I suspect that the primary reason you are seeing more men starting threads here on LoveShack is that they are socialized in a way that makes them feel very uncomfortable seeking emotional support from their friends. In contrast, women can comfortably rely on their friends for relationship advice and thus have less of a need to seek support on a public forum like this. Do women generally do the breaking up more than the men?A 2015 Stanford study says "no" when the breakup occurs among unmarried couples. It finds that with married couples, however, divorce is usually initiated by the wife about 70% of the time. Hence, for the vast majority of breakups occurring each year (i.e., those of unmarried couples), the women and men are equally likely to be the one who walks out. 2
sorano Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 I think women tend to be closer with there friends, have more close friends and they talk about it more openly than men. Both parties are at fault. I think women will do the break up more than guys. when a woman also reaches a certain age, they say they are on a time line. There getting too old to have kids, family, etc. Once that gets stuck in there head, they become crazy crazy picky, they rush things, and start going through guys like crazy. Thats just MY opinion. Nothing more. Everything can be going well, in a split second, something is wrong and boom.......Your ghost. The 180.
Neffer Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 No, it's likely pretty evenly divided amongst male/female. You are not selecting posts and threads at random; there is a bias in selection there. Also, you are male, so the male threads likely stand out to you more. There is the identification factor at play there. As has been noted, women have many more options as far as comfort and guidance with emotional matters - there are tons of sites, an entire industry of self help books, Oprah, friends, etc. The only male self help available is the pick up artist nonsense (Beta/Alpha reductive gibberish - pseudoscience) which is no help at all. So men flounder more, and seek actual help - which brings them here. Men tend to hide this sort of pain from friends etc - so the anonymity of the internet is ideal.
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