confuseddddgirl Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) So I've been dating my ex for about 5 years now and we've been on and off. the last time we broke up was 8 months (nov2014-july2015). How we got back together was him contacting me of course. when we broke up I changed my number and everything and of course, he contacted me through Facebook lol. honestly through that 8 months we've broken up, I've never stopped loving him. I missed him everyday, but I got through it by just working a lot. When he contacted me I was so shocked. his exact words were "I don't know if this is the right thing to do, but i just want to tell you that I've never stopped thinking about you". So, yes, we ended up getting back together. I took him back. All those times we broke up it was because of him, he broke up with me and I was always the one taking him back. Not to feed my ego or anything but I felt like I was such a good gf. I've been loyal to this kid since day one but I always questioned his loyalty towards me. Whenever we broke up he would literally go out of his way to meet someone new and then theres me, a huge wreck. So here we go again...broken up for the last, I don't know how many times and yes he broke up with me. I'm so confused as to why he keeps coming back to me when he should know for a fact that I'm going to be the same person that I was when we broke up. Each time he broke up with me he literally said he wasn't happy but honestly if he never had happiness with me than how can he say he's unhappy. I'm not going to talk bad about him because why would I if I loved him. I truly think he is a good person but sometimes he just has bad intentions. I forgave him so many shady things he done to me because that's what we do in relationships, we forgive each other for the stupid things we do because we love each other, but I feel like he can never forgive me for some things that I've done that aren't even bad. This might sound bad but each time we break up it gets easier and easier, like yeah I would of course cry but it doesn't last very long, but it's weird because I still have hope that we'll get back together. I just feel like I can't do any better than him that's why I keep taking him back, and I feel like he comes back because I feed his ego. Even though I hope that we get back together, a part me hope that we don't. I want him to be happy even if it's not with me. I think I should change my number again.... Edited April 9, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Zahara Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 I'm so confused as to why he keeps coming back to me when he should know for a fact that I'm going to be the same person that I was when we broke up. It's because you are an easy fallback. You've taught him time and time again that you'll be available to pick up where he left off. It's not who you are or what you mean to him -- it's that you're an available option when life isn't going the way he likes -- attention, ego boost, sex, companionship -- all temporary until he's ready to go out again and seek other options. And yes, he will be back again -- you make it easy. I forgave him so many shady things he done to me because that's what we do in relationships, we forgive each other for the stupid things we do because we love each other No, that's what people who have very little respect and love for themselves do -- they tolerate BS time and time again because they don't believe they deserve to be treated any better. Even though I hope that we get back together, a part me hope that we don't. I want him to be happy even if it's not with me. I think I should change my number again.... At what point does your dignity and self-respect kick in? Where's your happiness in this? Time to change your number and block him from all social media -- that is if you want to stop being his doormat. I hate to be harsh -- but 5 years of on and off and you're still romanticizing the hope of getting back together. It's toxic and dysfunctional. 1
Author confuseddddgirl Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 i totally agree with you. i need to stand my ground this time
Zahara Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 I just feel like I can't do any better than him that's why I keep taking him back, You see no value in yourself. This guy only reinforces how little you see in yourself. Unfortunately, it doesn't get any better until you cut him out of your life. Till then you'll always believe you deserve nothing but douchebags that mistreat you. 1
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