Author faithfully Posted April 12, 2016 Author Posted April 12, 2016 This sounds like a goodbye message of sorts. I presume he STILL has not rescheduled? If it were me I would respond back, "hey no worries, take care." Then block, delete, next. ETA: And Shining One, don't even start. I (and others) called this one very early on. The guy isn't interested, may never have been interested and is a flake. I've not replied, dunno if I can be bothered!!! And as a rescheduled date I still haven't got one so I'm not gonna reply. Thanks I will not entertain him, haven't got time for people like that. Thanks really appreciate it 1
LydiaLong Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 I think it was very rude of him to cancel like that at the last minute, without even telling you why he had to cancel. Because he didn't offer an excuse, the reasonable thing to think is that a better date popped up. This behavior shows that he is shallow and inconsiderate. You're better off without him.
Zahara Posted April 12, 2016 Posted April 12, 2016 So after that guy flaked on me for our Saturday date, not heard a word from him and tidY I'm sat with my friend and all of a sudden I got this msg from him- sorry about saturday i wasnt makng any bull**** up, it was a genuine excuse. My heads been all over because of sumat that happend saturday day. Anyway sorry again (my name) you was a really sound girl x This msg was sent to my online profile inbox and my phone but blocked his number but I can still receive msges that has been blocked. What dyou guys think?? "You WAS a really nice girl." And no follow-up on rescheduling. Flake. Move on.
Shining One Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 This sounds like a goodbye message of sorts.I agree. He should have provided clarity since the beginning instead of leaving the OP to wonder.ETA: And Shining One, don't even start. I (and others) called this one very early on.There were two possibilities here: He had a legitimate reason or he was flaking. You happened to pick the right one in this specific instance. 1
katiegrl Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I agree. He should have provided clarity since the beginning instead of leaving the OP to wonder.There were two possibilities here: He had a legitimate reason or he was flaking. You happened to pick the right one in this specific instance. I didn't *happen to pick* the right one. Common sense combined with basic gut instinct, and a good grasp of human nature and how one behaves when interested, allowed me to know exactly what this guy's game was from the get go.
Zippy2000 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 So after that guy flaked on me for our Saturday date, not heard a word from him and tidY I'm sat with my friend and all of a sudden I got this msg from him- sorry about saturday i wasnt makng any bull**** up, it was a genuine excuse. My heads been all over because of sumat that happend saturday day. Anyway sorry again (my name) you was a really sound girl x This msg was sent to my online profile inbox and my phone but blocked his number but I can still receive msges that has been blocked. What you guys think?? Sorry but I miss what the "excuse" was? He`s now feeling guilty and maybe sniffing around for a second chance. Why make excuses when he can be straight forward and own up ad say sorry it was his fault and ask to make it up to you? He`s not a man of integrity and a man of his word. I d probably judge his character by the excuses he gives. Now, what was that excuse?
smudge21 Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 The last minute cancelling was bad, but it's the no offer of another time to suit you that gets me. I have that too - cancelled on me but no offer to reschedule. Not just from dates but from so called friends too. It's just rude. You forgive you friends, but when we're talking a first date, no - move on. As for the "was a good girl" line.. seriously? I reckon there's someone who's playing the dating game and simply has many options. Never be someone's option.
Author faithfully Posted April 13, 2016 Author Posted April 13, 2016 I don't know what his excuses were because he didn't give me one but 30mins before we were due to meet he msged me this: Hiya i cant make it so sorry. I feel really bad x Me: ok no problem the fee mins later Me: just checking youre not winding me up right?? Him: nope something came up .I'm really sorry I feel awful x So no excuses then yesterday after not heard from him since Sat he msged me that msg I've already put on here so even I don't know the excuse. Like I said I haven't got time to entertain guys who can't be honest and come up with some sort of bull****
truth_seeker Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 There is zero tolerance and there is being smart. In this case, the callous way in which he cancelled, with no offer to reschedule = zero tolerance. ..and being smart. Interested people act interested and sorry his actions in this regard don't cut it. Not to mention we teach people how to treat us, from the get go! Just curious, when these women cancelled last minute with no offer to reschedule, did they contact you ...or did you contact them ... after the blow off? Sure she could forgive it, and give him another shot. Wait for HIM to get in touch again to set another date. But why, when there are so many other men who would never dream of blowing a chick off in such a callous manner? Would you ever cancel a date with a woman you really liked in that way? A person with common sense and a good set of morals and values would not tolerate a person who is inconsiderate... but the dating game has really changed. Both men and women using each other with no conscience. Today is all about options and a "what have you done for me lately" mentality. You stash numbers in your phone. You hit up who you're in the mood to see and want to get with... not available? You go to the next option. Wait. First option is now available? Okay. Let me drop the back up like a sack of potatoes and hit them up when I got nothing else going on. This is how people are today. Blame the culture... technology... just the way it is. You either accept and adapt to it or stick to your morals and values and end up being a pessimistic person venting on this forum
truth_seeker Posted April 13, 2016 Posted April 13, 2016 I've not replied, dunno if I can be bothered!!! And as a rescheduled date I still haven't got one so I'm not gonna reply. Thanks I will not entertain him, haven't got time for people like that. Thanks really appreciate it Sometimes I get the urge to screw with people who choose to mess with me. 1) Write back and let him know he's a loser and attack his manhood. "Hey, I'm not interested in seeing you. I don't get the sense you're very well-endowed and have much else to offer me. Please do not contact me again. Thanks." 2) Play along, agree to meet him a hotel as you are in the mood to get it on. Don't show up. Take my word: if you send him the message I suggest in 1) you will destroy this guy... seems he needs to be smacked.
Author faithfully Posted April 14, 2016 Author Posted April 14, 2016 Sometimes I get the urge to screw with people who choose to mess with me. 1) Write back and let him know he's a loser and attack his manhood. "Hey, I'm not interested in seeing you. I don't get the sense you're very well-endowed and have much else to offer me. Please do not contact me again. Thanks." 2) Play along, agree to meet him a hotel as you are in the mood to get it on. Don't show up. Take my word: if you send him the message I suggest in 1) you will destroy this guy... seems he needs to be smacked. Nah he's not worth all that hassle
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