Lois_Griffin Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. My brain needed that extra push because it has been taking a backseat to my emotions. I have ended it with him. I know that I will be okay and that it was the best decision, without a doubt. But I am still heartbroken. Meh. You spent a year and 3 months with him - and those last 3 months were spent with you grimly hanging onto him while he told you he needed 'space' and was REALLY doing God knows what. I'm thinking he was keeping you around as Plan B in case whatever he was doing didn't work out of him. You live and learn. Next time, don't let anyone disrespect you like that. Least of all, yourself.
longjohn Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 He wanted "Space" sounds like he wanted to go exploring. Give him all the "Space" he needs and dump him.
Author i123confused Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 You all were right. He was cheating with multiple women. Not only that, but he has an ex wife and child that I never knew existed. I feel like a f****** idiot.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 You all were right. He was cheating with multiple women. Not only that, but he has an ex wife and child that I never knew existed. I feel like a f****** idiot. Oh dear. I'm so sorry, OP. How did you discover all of this?
Dis Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 You all were right. He was cheating with multiple women. Not only that, but he has an ex wife and child that I never knew existed. I feel like a f****** idiot. Oh hun I'm so sorry! Pls dont feel like an idiot hun...this whole mess is a reflection of his character...not yours! Guys like this prey on open, honest, trustworthy women. He took advantage of your kind heart...again, thats on him I know this probably hurts so much...take time to process things and be kind to yourself But whatever you do...dont blame yourself...this is not your fault Best of luck to you hun...this too shall pass!
Lois_Griffin Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 You all were right. He was cheating with multiple women. Not only that, but he has an ex wife and child that I never knew existed. I feel like a f****** idiot. Not surprised. I knew it was more than 'stress and working too hard.' Thankfully, you only wasted a year and 3 months on this POS.
Author i123confused Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 Oh dear. I'm so sorry, OP. How did you discover all of this? Thank you. His brother is visiting and he told me. I am thankful for it. But pretty numb.
Author i123confused Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 Not surprised. I knew it was more than 'stress and working too hard.' Thankfully, you only wasted a year and 3 months on this POS. POS indeed. It takes a special kind of coward to act like this 1
Author i123confused Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 Oh hun I'm so sorry! Pls dont feel like an idiot hun...this whole mess is a reflection of his character...not yours! Guys like this prey on open, honest, trustworthy women. He took advantage of your kind heart...again, thats on him I know this probably hurts so much...take time to process things and be kind to yourself But whatever you do...dont blame yourself...this is not your fault Best of luck to you hun...this too shall pass! Thank you for your kind words. It is hard not to blame myself right now... just blinded by hurt
Author i123confused Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 And I am sooooo angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!
biker23 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 so sorry to hear this but it rings true. My Ex started the too stressed out and need space...its not you its me. But we would still talk each day...I understood her stress and helped her. I should have seen a red flag, but didnt know her as well nor her pattern. We continued for a month....then she went colder and asked for space again..I went on a vacation, came back and we talked some, but then wanted more space...I texted the next night asking if her day was better etc..she snapped at me. Come to find out she had other issues with me and would never say them and still hasnt. I had to hear thru a mutual friend. It shocked me as she 'broke up' by asking for space but she had asked for space over a month ago...so it shook me to think she had lost interest so long ago and maybe was trying or was a stringing me along...makes me feel sooooo stupid and I sympathize with you. Learn and move on is all we can do. The space deal is a deal breaker for me now. Either pull me in and help with your stress or goodbye. 2
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